This right here is pretty much what I wear on a regular basis these days—capris, sneakers, t-shirt, and a vest. There’s really not much I personally do to accessorize when the heat is just that bad, because I don’t really wear much jewelry. A vest is a good layering piece to make an ordinary t-shirt look modest and not so boring.
These photos were taken with an iPhone last week in Norfolk while I was visiting family in Virginia Beach. I swear, sometimes my phone takes better photographs than my camera! It helps that I was surrounded by beautiful shrubbery right in front of a quaint green house.
While I was headed back home to Baltimore, Rob and I decided to stop a thrift store. He and I parted ways to scurry through treasures found in different parts of the store. I was later approached by a man maybe in his mid 40s while I was going through the female tops rack. The conversation went on a little something like this:
My Conversation with a Creepy Stranger
Man: Is this for women? *smiles, pointing to the clothes then pointing at me from top to bottom*
Me: Yes, these are for women. *goes back to what I was doing, sorting through the tops*
Man: These are nice. I’m buying for a friend.
Me: Oh, okay. You’ll find a lot of good things here. *smiles*
Man: So, what’s your name? *smiles*
Me: No, I’m not going to tell you my name. *I wouldn’t normally be this rude, but he was looking at me so intensely*
Man: Huh? What’s that?
Me: My name’s Rachel. *looks back at him*
Man: I’m ______. What do you do, for job?
Me: I have a store. *continues to sift through clothing as a hint to get lost but looking back at him when answering a question*
Man: Oh, so what do you sell? Art?
Me: Umm, a lot of things. Like, CDs.
Man: You’re very beautiful. What’s your background?
Me: Thanks. Hmm, how about you make a guess?
Man: You’re Filipina, no?
Me: Ha, you’re the first person in a long time to ever guess that right. Not even Filipinos think I’m Filipino.
Man: I know some Filipino! Magandang gabi. Kamusta. Uh, what else…
Me: It’s magandang hapon for the afternoon.
Man: Oh yeah yah, magandang hapon.*big smile* Where do you live?
Me: I’m not from around here.
Man: Oh, really? Me too. I’m from Washington.
Me: Oh, okay.
Man: Where are you from?
Man: Oh, Maryland, huh? So what are you doing here?
Me: I was visiting my parents.
Man: How long you staying?
Me: I’m leaving today. I’m going back home today. *that was really true*
Man: Aww. Can we exchange phone numbers?
Me: No, I’m married. *points to my ring finger*
Man: Oh okay. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. *smiling* *pause* You have kids?
Me: No. No kids.
Man: Ah, no kids. So are you visiting alone, or…?
Me: No, with my husband. He’s in this store somewhere right now.
Man: *looks around nervously* Ah, I see. Maybe if we exchange e-mail, it’s safe. Okay? Is that okay?
Me: No, I’m sorry.
Man: Okay, how about I give you my e-mail? You’ll have my e-mail.
Me: No… I’m sorry.
The man in this conversation wasn’t what I call harassing me. Maybe a bit persistent but not harassing. He was probably lonely and looking for some company, innocent or not. What I don’t like however is that he kept pushing me to exchange contact information after I said no and also tried to keep our communication “secret” from my husband by suggesting we do e-mail, because it’s “safe.” The nerve! A few people in the store saw the whole thing and a woman just shook her head and said “Oh gosh, some people!”
I’m not against guys walking up to girls and asking them for their numbers (or e-mail). I don’t think that’s creepy. Some girls, if they thought the stranger was cute would give him her number any day. To say someone is “creepy” just because you don’t like how he looks is two faced. The same idea goes for girls wearing revealing clothing to hopefully invite the cute guys and not the “creepy” guys who they just think is unattractive. That’s just mean and unfair to label someone a creep, when it’s biased and totally based on looks.
However, I do think someone is a creep for pursuing someone they know is married. That applies to women who know a man is married. Women can be creeps too (equal and opposite…genders). Men and women, look for the ring first before you start flirting with someone. If they hide their being married, that’s on them.
For your viewing pleasure and nostalgia, here’s TLC (hope you get the reference):