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I immediately thought of a torero (bullfighter in Spanish) when I saw these photos. I had the perfect gold bolero to go with it too that I didn’t wear, which would’ve matched the gold color in the scarf. I have both the vintage blue velvet dress and the vintage gold bolero up on Etsy if you’re interested! A lot of my personal wardrobe is on sale, even if it’s not up on Etsy, so don’t be afraid to ask! There’s no reason to hold on to things I can’t wear a lot anymore. I find myself buying and wearing a lot of sport tops and leggings 90% of the time now ever since fitness instructing!

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ANNOUNCING GOOD DEEDS

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Speaking of toreros, their extravagant outfits are usually very bold and are meant to proclaim who is in charge in the arena with the bull! We see some “torerors” on a daily basis in the manner in which people call for attention.

Lately, I’ve been noticing more and more people announcing their good deeds in public, especially on social networks. Some may  say that there is no good deed, because it is almost always accompanied by the pursuit of good feelings. That’s not always the case, because the effort, time, or resources spent on a good deed sometimes outweighs the elation of doing good, including making someone happy. Of course, that is based on perspective.

Setting that aside, let’s suppose that all good deeds inevitably go hand in hand with good feelings—the earthly reward from God for humanitarianism, regardless of religion. God cares for all people even if they don’t care back. So in this case, wanting more attention for the good deed you’ve done, even if it is in the church setting, seems to me a bit greedy and self righteous. Why want more good feelings when it has already come to you now, such as in the form of gratitude when you once performed the act, or later in Heaven from God?

Besides the proclamation of piety, there is also the chance to vent about someone else’s bad deed in public masked by a veil of holiness. This is nothing short of gossip. When someone does this, I often see support and praise for the gossiper—how patient and gracious they were in the presence of that other “mean” person. Again, fishing for compliments. Never “holy.”

I don’t really blame a lot of folks outside the church for doing this type of thing, but I believe the people within the church should know better. If it’s not accompanied by the urge to ask for more help in this area of service, then I don’t see why there is a point to announce what you’ve done good for others—especially on an empty platform full of people such as Facebook.

Here’s a passage from the Bible that specifically says not to announce your good deeds:

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.

But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

- Matthew 6:1-4

Sadly, I personally feel I must announce my good works, because I get judged for doing “nothing.” Some others may feel the same. It is not always the case that someone is doing nothing good if they don’t talk about it. You can see it by the way they deal or talk with others on a regular basis, what they choose to wear or buy with their money (this might be hard to judge, because a lot of us may look wealthy but buy second hand), what they do in their free time, etc. These in the Christian community are called “fruits.” These fruits are the evidence of a person’s character. They don’t need to talk about their fruits, but they must simply act.

I guess in the presence of trusted friends and family, announcing your good deeds is okay. There’s nothing wrong with sharing everything with people you already share everything with and love. However when you seek for more attention outside this sphere, especially without humbly encouraging others to follow suit, then this essentially reverses the good deed you’ve done.

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Do you sometimes feel tempted or pressured to announce your good deed to others?

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Happy 2014! How have your style and personality changed in the past year? Often times the two go hand in hand. What personally attracts you to Audrey Hepburn vs Marilyn Monroe can tell a whole lot about yourself. I personally take some characteristics from each Hollywood diva. Audrey for general feminine and conservative style and brunette features and Marilyn for her womanly curves!

Although my general style hasn’t changed much (still somewhat modest and into textures), I feel like I’ve matured in my clothing in some ways. I don’t necessarily think that’s a good thing. It’s just different. Less bright colors and A-line skirts and more earth tones, pencil skirts, and fur.

I’ve been really into accentuating with faux fur, especially ever since my obsession with Russian winter styles and Art Deco period pieces (have a look at my previous Art Deco fashion post). I can’t get myself to keep full fur vintage coats though, because it’s a pain to have to take it to the cleaners. I don’t go to dry cleaners ever. I’m actually very practical (or lazy) with the upkeep of my clothes. I try to find clothes that don’t need to be ironed and can withstand a good amount of washing. I will however not pass up buying a good looking vintage fur coat just to put it up on Etsy and maybe use it once!

Although I generally believe in dressing appropriately (e.g. occasions, environment, and modesty beliefs), I don’t really think there’s an “appropriate” color, texture, or even style for a certain age. There may be an association to age, but I really don’t mind seeing 50 year olds with pink hair. In fact, I like it! I wish I could keep up with style as I age, but as some of us know the transition from childhood to adulthood styles often times come naturally. Teens and young adults everywhere wanting to prove their adulthood to the public dress sexier, and we see that in celebrities such as Miley Cyrus. Often times, the transition can get forced or driven by desperation and cry for attention. There is no peace within with such motivation and others will see it through you. If we were all honest with ourselves, we’d know that we all have that darkness in us. We need to expose it by bringing our motivation to light at least to ourselves and perhaps reevaluate why we choose what we wear.

Let’s get faux real. What do you find yourself wearing different since the last year or in the past? What may be the reason(s) behind that change?

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I’m wearing a shell layering dress from Kosher Casual that is advertised to be good for not only layering underneath but also to be worn alone. I paired it with monochrome thrifted vintage faux fur hat and collar with a hint of gold from vintage accessories. The dress isn’t really that tight as pictured honestly. It’s supposed to look more pencil than bodycon. The under bust corset I was wearing underneath clung to the material, especially since it was cold and windy out!

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Above: Me at the gym taking photos when I’m not supposed to (use my phone… for calling, I assume).

Are any of you like me wherein you wear workout clothes while out, wear your sports bra at work, or keep a pair of sneakers in the back seat of the car or trunk? I will be working as a fitness instructor next year so that’s going to be all the time, but right now I am just a regular schmo’.

I’ve been wearing my sports bra almost on a daily basis these days, because it’s a lot more comfortable than my regular bras. I don’t really wear push up bras anymore, because those things hurt, leave red half moons on your chest, and are not good for your breast tissues. There have been anecdotes from women claiming that their backs got better (including myself) and breasts had more room to grow when they stopped wearing push up bras. I certainly did see some growth after wearing the right bra (see my previous post)!

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Sports bra: Freya | Top: Terry Euro | Leggings: Reebok | Shoes: Skechers | Sweater: Mary Michael Designs (similar)

As far as preventing the twin peaks from going down south, that’s where you wear the right sized bra with good support—and also,  not run for a long time. In fact, just stop that activity altogether, especially if you’re a woman. I don’t run, but I am in great shape. You can get cardio and lose weight with other methods. More on that later!

As much as you’d like to wear workout clothes to work, so you can head to the gym right after work, you just can’t because of your job’s dress code. If you don’t frequent the gym, some of you belong to a job that require a lot of moving around but still need to look presentable. It would be just wonderful to have clothes that had the below specs:

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Here’s a company I found whose philosophy I find on point with addressing the problem I mentioned above— Mary Michael Designs. They’re new, so they need a bit of support via their Kickstarter to make their goal of making clothes fit for work and working out (or just sweating at work) a reality. The specs above are from their website, so their clothes would be a good solution for the problem of workout vs work clothes. I love startups, don’t you? Help them out and get clothes by them! Below is a video about them:

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Questions:

Do you wear workout clothes out?

What is your typical exercise outfit?

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Vrksasana (tree pose)

I decided to put up photos of me doing some of my favorite yoga poses outdoors in this beautiful fall before the weather gets too cold. The workout top & bottom I’m wearing is from Cotton Cantina. I love how breathable and light the materials used in these are. However, the top is a bit sheer. I was wearing a pink exercise bra, so it was showing a bit. If you wear a neutral colored bra, you’ll be fine!
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Natarajasana (dancer’s pose)
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Virabhadrasana III (warrior 3 pose)

Below is a GIF I put together sloppily of my doing an upward bow/full wheel. It’s a good beginner’s guide to follow. I did not intend to do a step-by-step guide at all. The other shots in the GIF were a mistake, because the timer stopped while I was midway the pose!
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Anjali Mudra (salutation seal)

Below is an infographic from Huffington Post on “How Yoga Transforms Your Body.” The article on there is good to read too!


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This is how yoga, Pilates, and Tai Chi (= Les Mills‘ Bodyflow) + a good diet helped me transform MY body:

* High fat diet with good saturated fats (organic grass fed butter/ghee and coconut oil) made me have more of an hourglass figure. I used to be more pear shaped. My waist slimmed down significantly without needing a corset ;-)

* The collagen produced in my body by eating more organic grass fed meat helped me have smoother skin. My hands, feet, and lips used to be so rough and dry. There is a grass fed supplement for collagen (and whey) too if you don’t eat red meat (but I highly recommend you do). I get my and my husband’s personal supplements mostly on Bulletproof’s website.

* By changing my diet,  I was able to effortlessly perform exercises that would usually wear me out. I am more flexible now, and I’m able to recover from injury pretty fast.

* Yoga (especially inversions) and Tai Chi, helped me feel so much more relaxed, happy, and alert by having  blood flow through different parts of my body better and relieving tension in my muscles.

* Pilates gave me a flatter tummy and better abs (and the food I eat made me get there a lot faster!).

* … and so much more! I will be blogging more and more about how food and the appropriate exercise on this blog now, because it has truly turned my world around (and rocked it)!

 

How has your lifestyle makeover (diet + exercise) changed you?

My Mad Men Outfit

October 17th, 2013

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Here’s a photo of me and my aunt wearing vintage, taken during reception. Her dress is by Bettie Page Clothing. vintage girls a la modest vintage accessories Fur purse & pill box hat for sale on Etsy!

Since a lot of vintage lovers seem to have THE perfect “Mad Men” outfit, I am posting these photos of what I wore to my brother-in-law’s wedding just this past weekend. Their theme for the wedding was sort of nautical, and it was held at a yacht club overlooking the bay. I whipped up something blue, from the 50s, and was not overtly sailor. I really liked how this outfit turned out!

This dress is vintage and so is the hat. The accessories, namely the eye catching cat eye sunnies and the tribal gold and turquoise necklace are from Beauty’s Own. The best thing about this whole outfit is that it cost me less than $30! The sunglasses are $7 and the necklace is $11! They are both brand new and with amazing quality for the price! I was a bit surprised by how sturdy the glasses were compared to my other pair from Forever 21, which was twice the price and broke apart.  The dress and hat are both thrifted. Weddings need not to be expensive either, and I can see more love and personality put into DIY weddings than fancy and elaborate types.

Have you had your fill of weddings this time of year? Besides celebrating the marriage between two committed souls, I love seeing family and friends get together.

I’m a big fan of online shops that sell inexpensive (thrift store prices) brand new items and are based in the US (for fast shipping). Beauty’s Own is definitely a new addition to my favorites of go-to accessories on a budget! You can add them on Facebook to get free shipping for orders $30 or more (that’s nothing), and you can also use coupon code 10FALL for $10 off.

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Clothing: Everything in this outfit is vintage with the exception of the tank top I probably got from K-Mart back in high school!

Do any of you own a layering bib? I’m not sure if that is the official name for it, but it’s this little piece of layering garment that used to exist in my grandmother’s time. You put it on through your neck, and it just sits without having to button it. Some may have buttons, but they are really just there for decoration. The bib starts from above your collar bone to the bottom of your breast. It could have been either for modesty or for adding variety to your tops. Below is an example of layering bibs with a fake collar. I haven’t found these anywhere else with the whole bib attached to the collar. I see mostly just collars. Wish they made more of these! What I have on in the photos above is truly vintage, made of polyester (very light weight) and is decorated with lace.

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The trend today is to wear just the fake collar or bib necklaces (the other kind that you’ll see more), but I don’t really like those as much because most of them are too tiny and sit beneath the spot where your collar actually should be. There are also those fake collars made of fabric, and they look more natural. None of those satisfy modest clothing practices really, because they are so small and barely cover anything. I did buy myself fabric fake collars, because I like the style of uniforms and structure. The layering bibs are ones that actually work for covering up your chest, back, and collar bone, BUT… these things do NOT exist in retail, sadly. I’ve only been finding them at thrift stores. They’re all about at least 30 years old and are mostly turtleneck bibs.

Below is an example of a nice beaded fake peter pan collar you can wear over your top. Like all other fake collars however, you have to have a high neck top to begin with for these to blend in naturally with your outfit as if attached. Otherwise, there your skin will show in between.

fake peter pan collar I do find wonderfully elaborate vintage tops with gorgeous collars everywhere, so I need to make a tutorial for you all soon transforming oversized vintage tops into useful layering bibs. ;-)

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This right here is pretty much what I wear on a regular basis these days—capris, sneakers, t-shirt, and a vest. There’s really not much I personally do to accessorize when the heat is just that bad, because I don’t really wear much jewelry. A vest is a good layering piece to make an ordinary t-shirt look modest and not so boring.

These photos were taken with an iPhone last week in Norfolk while I was visiting family in Virginia Beach. I swear, sometimes my phone takes better photographs than my camera! It helps that I was surrounded by beautiful shrubbery right in front of a quaint green house.

While I was headed back home to Baltimore, Rob and I decided to stop a thrift store. He and I parted ways to scurry through treasures found in different parts of the store. I was later approached by a man maybe in his mid 40s while I was going through the female tops rack. The conversation went on a little something like this:

My Conversation with a Creepy Stranger

Man: Is this for women? *smiles, pointing to the clothes then pointing at me from top to bottom*
Me: Yes, these are for women. *goes back to what I was doing, sorting through the tops*
Man: These are nice. I’m buying for a friend.
Me: Oh, okay. You’ll find a lot of good things here. *smiles*
Man: So, what’s your name? *smiles*
Me: No, I’m not going to tell you my name. *I wouldn’t normally be this rude, but he was looking at me so intensely*
Man: Huh? What’s that?
Me: My name’s Rachel. *looks back at him*
Man: I’m ______. What do you do, for job?
Me: I have a store. *continues to sift through clothing as a hint to get lost but looking back at him when answering a question*
Man: Oh, so what do you sell? Art?
Me: Umm, a lot of things. Like, CDs.
Man: You’re very beautiful. What’s your background?
Me: Thanks. Hmm, how about you make a guess?
Man: You’re Filipina, no?
Me: Ha, you’re the first person in a long time to ever guess that right. Not even Filipinos think I’m Filipino.
Man: I know some Filipino! Magandang gabi. Kamusta. Uh, what else…
Me: It’s magandang hapon for the afternoon.
Man: Oh yeah yah, magandang hapon.*big smile* Where do you live?
Me: I’m not from around here.
Man: Oh, really? Me too. I’m from Washington.
Me: Oh, okay.
Man: Where are you from?
Me: Maryland.
Man: Oh, Maryland, huh? So what are you doing here?
Me:  I was visiting my parents.
Man: How long you staying?
Me: I’m leaving today. I’m going back home today. *that was really true*
Man: Aww. Can we exchange phone numbers?
Me: No, I’m married. *points to my ring finger*
Man: Oh okay. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. *smiling* *pause* You have kids?
Me: No. No kids.
Man: Ah, no kids. So are you visiting alone, or…?
Me: No, with my husband. He’s in this store somewhere right now.
Man: *looks around nervously* Ah, I see. Maybe if we exchange e-mail, it’s safe. Okay? Is that okay?
Me: No, I’m sorry.
Man: Okay, how about I give you my e-mail? You’ll have my e-mail.
Me: No… I’m sorry.

My Verdict

The man in this conversation wasn’t what I call harassing me. Maybe a bit persistent but not harassing. He was probably lonely and looking for some company, innocent or not. What I don’t like however is that he kept pushing me to exchange contact information after I said no and also tried to keep our communication “secret” from my husband by suggesting we do e-mail, because it’s “safe.” The nerve! A few people in the store saw the whole thing and a woman just shook her head and said “Oh gosh, some people!”

I’m not against guys walking up to girls and asking them for their numbers (or e-mail). I don’t think that’s creepy. Some girls, if they thought the stranger was cute would give him her number any day. To say someone is “creepy” just because you don’t like how he looks is two faced. The same idea goes for girls wearing revealing clothing to hopefully invite the cute guys and not the “creepy” guys who they just think is unattractive. That’s just mean and unfair to label someone a creep, when it’s biased and totally based on looks.

However, I do think someone is a creep for pursuing someone they know is married. That applies to women who know a man is married. Women can be creeps too (equal and opposite…genders). Men and women, look for the ring first before you start flirting with someone. If they hide their being married, that’s on them.

For your viewing pleasure and nostalgia, here’s TLC (hope you get the reference):

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