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Finding Your Constant During Seasonal Blues (SAD)

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Winter is a time when many of us are feeling sad and lonely, regardless of circumstance. I find myself feeling most vulnerable on winter nights—the combination of cold weather and early darkness just tears me down. I am mostly introverted, but when the sun goes down, I am often needing and wanting company. I have my husband, and he is delightful and so much fun, yet I still get the blues. Didn’t I say, no matter the circumstance? Listening to music helps somewhat, but the songs that find me end up complimenting my mood. I don’t know how long I’ve been like this. but it just further reminds me of the importance of getting sunshine!

When the sun is bright, I just feel like everything is or will be okay. The feeling I get when I’m basking in the sun is like the feeling of having someone’s arms wrapped around you, keeping you warm. In that moment, I feel loved. Secure. Protected. Special. Beautiful.

No matter what kind of woman you are, no matter your figure or profession, I think we can all agree that sometimes we feel like we’re not enough. It’s a joy to be a woman in many ways, but it also feels like a curse. In particular, our desire to be pursued and appreciated never ends. We are trapped in the illusion that our worth equates our beauty. Even after life settles down in a societal-familial sense, things never really settle down. Men on the other hand will always want to keep pursuing women, no matter what circumstance. It’s human nature—but not necessarily the good kind.

This is how I feel during the winter:

Note the underlying sadness.

When things change in your mood, your career, your happiness… find your constant and be grounded in it. What doesn’t shake, even amidst all things that do? Even when the sun goes away from our view, it is always there. It’s always working in the background even when you blame it for seasonal sadness. Dig even deeper, and you will find true joy at the source of it all, our Creator, lover of your soul and appreciator of your beauty.

Wearing: Vintage layering bib (fake collar) – Banana Republic 3/4 sleeves top – Ross high waist plaid skirt – Boohoo Chelsea boots – Burlington coat

Big Scarves Are Like Warm Hugs & Sony’s The Interview

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Scarves to me are the ultimate accessory. You can wear them in so many different ways. They also protect you from the cold and harsh winds of winter. I remember a few years ago when my husband and I went around the streets of Chicago in early February, I was wearing this very scarf on my face, covering everything but my eyes! I don’t remember why we chose Chicago in the dead of winter. It might’ve been a tempting Groupon offer, but this scarf definitely was a lifesaver!

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How was your Christmas? Some of my cousins and their friends went to see The Interview with Rob and I on Christmas day. I really wish the funniest people in the world didn’t have to be so crass, because they would still be the funniest people in the world without being so. Truthfully, I couldn’t stop laughing throughout the movie. I loved it except for the long stripper scene and of course the overall crassness you’d expect from Rogen-Franco taken to the next level.

I don’t care what Greta Van Susteren or any of the real movie critics say about it. It’s not so much about your taste in movies or humor that’s in question, but more about supporting and positively reinforcing the freedom of speech aspect of it. You might not want to see it, because it’s definitely not a family-friendly movie! However, there is freedom in choosing. Once we allow someone else’s rights to be taken away, we are allowing ours to be taken away as well. Anyway, we are still alive and didn’t get blown up. In times like these when you’ve got a dictator like Kim in the world, it’s especially unnecessary and cowardly to be politically correct. Rob wrote about censorship and freedom of speech recently on Modern Life Survivalist.

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Despite the holiday cheer and merrymaking, many of us feel lonely at this time of year. It could be the lack of sunlight, imbalanced immune system, materialism, or the expectation of good feelings or of company. No matter how much we direct our focus for this season on the birth of Christ (even though many of you know December 25 isn’t actually when Christ was born), we are still sad. This feeling happens a lot on Valentine’s Day for obvious reasons, or on birthdays when barely anyone remembers it unless you’re on Facebook. What helps me to feel happy is to stop thinking about myself and give love and attention to someone else. Big scarves are like a warm embrace. Be that scarf that someone else needs on a cold night.

 

What’s On Your Graphic Tee?

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I am wearing a graphic tee from Monkey: Journey to the West, an awesome operatic play composed by Damon Albarn (of Blur and Gorillaz) that we got to see in New York around this time a year ago! My husband actually bought it for himself, but it just got a tad small on him (he is beefing up, I suppose!)… so I get to wear it! Yesss.

I don’t really wear graphic tees much like I used to when I was in middle or high school. When I wear it now, I like it to say something accurate about me or what I like. I used to just put something on that looked kinda cute or cool without really thinking about what the graphic or words on my shirt say. I remember back in middle school I had this bubble gum pink jersey with glitter that said “Tiki Beach. Clothing optional.” I mean, what was I thinking? I was a Spice Girl.

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Debbie Harry from Blondie

Graduating from lameness, I decided that I was going to be more intentional about graphic tees. I’d wear images of my favorite bands, albums, philosophical ideals, conspiracy theories, etc. Of course, I also thought about being mentally apt about being approached and questioned more than usual about the messages literally being communicated through my clothing. Would I be prepared? It’s definitely happened before at a grocery store when a gentleman approached me about my Beatles shirt, which is the most typical graphic tee of the most celebrated band. That was too easy. I generally stay away from the obvious, just because I am a soul always looking for something unusual in common with people! That is why Rob and I click :)

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Billy Corgan from Smashing Pumpkins

PET PEEVE. I’ve been seeing a lot of girls wear iconic rock bands on their t-shirts, have you? I don’t like to judge, but I know I’d be so ticked if they didn’t know much about the band. There are other sacred or sinister symbols that are so misunderstood that a lot of people like to wear fashionably–the cross, the masons, the evil eye, illuminati, etc. I would wear any of these symbols only if I was prepared to say anything other than, “I don’t know. It looks cool.”

Vocal  graphic tees on anyone though can be just as annoying as bumper stickers plastered all over an insecure car. Can your entire personality be summed up on to the space on your chest or the butt of you car? Probably not. That is probably why a lot of us misunderstood individuals like titles of our own choosing, because it’s nice to belong, to associate sometimes. However, these things always fail to summarize the complexity of any individual, and I am usually still left misunderstood :-/

It cracks me up that I used to own shirts with Japanese Engrish on them. It was charming at first, until I realized that I could easily be mistaken as someone who can’t speak English just because I am Asian!

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Do you like wearing graphic tees? What kind of graphic do you tend to pick?

 

 

What I Wear on a Typical Workout Day

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On a typical workout day…

CLOTHES. I always wear capri leggings and a sleeveless workout top. They’re great for flexibility moves and inversions, so you don’t accidentally flash someone while you’re upside down! I find that loose workout clothing can actually be more immodest depending on what you’re doing! A nice snug but not too tight outfit is best. Too constrictive is uncomfortable and will limit your range of motion.

I usually opt for darker tones for bottoms to minimize my bottom curves, but today I opted for something brave and bright for a change. It’s summertime after all!

I also find that capri leggings as opposed to full length leggings also minimize the look of bulkiness on the legs. If you’re heavier on the bottom or have short legs, you can either go for dark colors to draw away attention from that area or wear below the knee capris to hide where your knees end. Capris also hug the hips, butt, thighs, and everything else… so there’s also the option of wider leg capris if you want to be a bit more covert!

I sweat SO MUCH that I have to wear clothing with material that’s breathable, so I can’t wear 100% cotton or anything heavy. Invest in a good workout top (and bra) and bottom!

JEWELRY. I try not to wear any jewelry when working out especially when doing yoga. If I do, I make sure it’s not metal. I believe that when practicing any kind of meditative exercise, metal on your body disrupts the flow of energy that’s needed for healing. That means no underwire for my sports bras.

SHOES. When I don’t do yoga, I like wearing comfortable sneakers. I don’t do a lot of cardio at all but instead do a lot of interval training and isometric exercises like yoga and Pilates, so there’s really no need for me to wear typical running sneakers when I go to the gym. These neutral sneakers with a tiny wedge in them are from City Pisces. They’re sort of beige too, so they help elongate the look of the legs! I like that these sneakers are only $30!

Speaking of, City Pisces will be having a giveaway for SHOES, SHOES, SHOES hosted here on ALAMODEST this week! Watch out for it!

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 When you have good workout clothes on, you feel good about yourself and your workout. I personally tend to want to achieve more!

What do you like to wear when you workout?