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I wasn’t tempted to wear red shoes with these, because that would’ve totally been Dorothy from Wizard of Oz! I really couldn’t pass this dress up the minute I saw it. I love gingham, but I don’t have enough of it! I also like Peter Pan collars, but this is probably my only piece of clothing with it. I like wearing dresses like these all year long, because I know I can always layer them with something. It gets tough making room in my closet because of this! Anyone have this problem?

The next part of this post might be a bit hard to swallow. If you’re an extreme feminist who ironically can’t stand women putting down other women or are easily offended by religious talk, please don’t move forward. Otherwise, please bare (pun not intended) with me! There’s actually no nudity in this post.

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Not too long ago, I found an online-famous Christian model with a pretty face on Instagram. She looked genuinely nice, so I followed her. If you’ve seen my Instagram account following, I follow so many different kinds of people. I usually follow for the following reasons:

  • * health & fitness message matches up with mine
  • * highly notable or similar personal style
  • * makeup, hair, fashion inspiration
  • * personal or business connections
  • *faith matches up with mine with certain aesthetic appeal

 

This girl I found online whom I’ll call Megan had bible verses up on her social network’s profile. She obviously falls under the last category I listed! In particular, she had Luke 10:27 which is “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This impressed me, because she was associated with a well-known mainstream modeling agency whose models have done high-profile commercials and advertising. Did I mention how quickly I followed her? Yes :) She was brave for telling the world of her faith… or so I thought.

I’m not here to be the faith police or anything, especially not in public! However, believe me that I have done what I could in private. I’m still keeping her identity secret to protect her. I just thought I’d share something so common yet so seldom discussed among the Christian community. If you aren’t Christian, feel free to read on!

I knew Megan had up bikini pictures, scantily clad clothing, and provocative poses, but it didn’t bother me as much as what I saw today. I follow many wonderful girls who do the same, but somehow I often overlook these things because I see that they have great style or hair or whatnot that I can take from and be inspired by. Some of them are even my real life friends. Many of the girls I follow aren’t Christian or at least don’t advertise that they are, so I don’t really expect them to have a similar standard. I was still following Megan the whole time until she posted a topless photo today with only her fingers covering her nipples. This is from the girl who has more Bible verses up on her actual profiles than I do or many of the Christian girls I follow do. Thankfully, Instagram’s no-nudity policy might be the only thing that keeps her from going all nude, but that’s beside the point.

I hate to be judgmental. I hate to be negative. Oftentimes I talk about only positive things on this blog, at least for the past couple of years. It irks me to have to actually get irked about something like this. About Christianity. About modesty. About what the Bible says about our bodies and clothing and sexuality—not just women’s. Yet I feel like I need to.

Both times my messages were ignored by Megan or her agency or whoever it is dealing with her social networks. I know how it feels to be ridiculed, scorned, and bullied into submission. Trust me, I’ve had many people who’ve criticized my clothing and photos online because they weren’t “modest” in their viewpoint. They’re probably right, and I was just letting myself go in some way at the time. I’m actually in the process of removing photos that I’m not too proud of. I didn’t mind that they pointed that out, but I do mind that they were mean and not loving when they confronted me. I confronted Megan in a way that I wanted to be confronted and emphasized that I cared about her enough to say something. I tried to be loving and even said the word “loving.” I didn’t tell her to wear modest clothes, I just pointed out the nudity. I was being what a bare bones, minimalist Christian should do—even if she doesn’t believe in modesty.

I know some of you are thinking, “She can do whatever she wants! Leave her alone.” Yes, anyone can absolutely do whatever anyone wants, and in the same way, I can express my disappointment. If someone calls themselves a vegan, that person shouldn’t obviously eat chicken. Like how the vegan police pointed out that chicken parm and gelato aren’t vegan in the movie Scott Pilgrim vs the World. It needs to be called out. Being nude for everyone to see is not Christian, and Megan professes to be a Christian clearly on her profile. I hope you see this logic. I could hypothetically even be an atheist and point that out. It’s a discrepancy between someone’s words and actions.

What scares me most about Megan is that because she is a professing Christian and ignoring my messages about public display of sexuality, the Bible says that the punishment for those who know the truth yet don’t follow it is more severe than those who don’t know the truth (Matthew 11:20-24, 2 Peter 2:20-22, and James 3:1-2). This means that according to the Bible (not me), murderers and rapists have more of a chance to go to heaven than someone like Megan. I know this sounds harsh, but if you think critically, it is just. It makes sense because murderers and rapists might not know that there is eternal damnation, so when they change their ways and confess, they can be forgiven. For someone like Megan who knows (or at least should know) about heaven and hell yet still willingly continues to live a life of sin, the punishment is going to be worse.

I know it’s hard especially for women with bodies and faces who pass society’s ideals to remain pure. That has always been the case with beautiful women in the past and in the present. The temptation is so hard that I actually feel sorry for them. In a way, I feel content that I am not physically perfect, because the pressure would be too great for me to handle. I feel the same way for wealth, popularity, and success. It would be too much for me and for most Christians to be in Hollywood, because of all the filth, unrealistic ideals, and the competition. I personally think you have to literally give your soul to the devil to be among the rich and famous—and to thrive in show business. I’m not saying they all are Satanists of course, but there’s definitely many that profess to be in Hollywood. I know that sounds scary, but it’s also real.

Being real and trying not to be afraid are the very reasons I’m writing this today. I know I’m going to get beat up for this, but I have to believe that my reward doesn’t exist in the here and now. Everyone else who does otherwise has gotten their fill of what this earth can give them, and many of them are afraid to die for this reason.

Thankfully there are still some people who believe that there is still freedom in speech and religion and fight for this right, despite having opposite opinions. Once someone’s freedom of speech or to practice a religion of their choice goes away, everyone else’s rights could easily be threatened. I hope you keep an open mind to what I am saying even if you don’t have this belief. To those who do, I hope that you can learn from what I am saying and be as bold, if not more, in speaking out in matters of your personal faith.

Do not desire her beauty in your heart, Nor let her capture you with her eyelids. For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
-Proverbs 6:25


For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.
-Romans 1:18-20


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I just love big sweaters, don’t you? This is a vintage 80’s Liz Claiborne Sport (which I call “Rainbow Tron” because of the pattern) in a small size! I usually wear a medium (US 6-8) in today’s clothes. This, however, fits like a large, but it was designed to be loose—just like many of the clothes around the 80’s and 90’s. Though we still have clothing designed to be baggy nowadays, a lot of trendy girls seem to like to pair anything loose with something tight, like it’s some kind of requirement or must. I know it works well for the self-esteem to at least show off something, but it really doesn’t always have to be that way!

I’ve just at this point in my life realized that a loose top and loose bottom paired with some dainty heels can look oh so good. I’ve been watching classic Hollywood movies for a few days straight now, and I picked up a style perspective that I could apply to modern clothes. Big puffy sleeves and dresses are usually paired with dainty heels.

Back to the modern world, I’ve been inspired seeing girls wearing ragged & ripped boyfriend jeans with a classy loose button-down top or an executive-looking blazer with stilettos and just rocking it. The boxy shape isn’t necessarily bad or frumpy. Think 60’s shift dresses or straight-legged or boyfriend jeans with baggy sweaters and skinny heels. The contrast is so awesome, so it’s a win situation for the modest crowd. For the dainty part, I wore short grey socks with my 90’s Mary Janes to get that tasteful Japanese schoolgirl look ;-)

Be a loosey goosey.

You might not want to be a loosey goosey according to its typical definition! However, I found another definition for it on Urban Dictionary that is ironically quite notable: “not following prescribed guidelines or general societal expectations.” Absolutely! That is exactly how we must live our lives, especially if you’re either a Christian or just a red-blooded human being. So regardless of the pattern you choose to wear on your clothes (Rainbow Tron or otherwise), “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” -Romans 12:2

Wearing: Liz Claiborne sweater (selling on Etsy)- Kosher Casual shell dress – vintage 90’s pumps

 

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Oh my, check out these lovely “pin up” style dresses from Pin Up Darling. The cut and length on these dresses flatter any body type and can even give the illusion of having an hourglass figure. What a dream! There’s nothing more attractive than the art of subtlety, which we seem to have lost through the years. Vintage fashion 101: Not all high fashion clothes then were burlesque. In fact, the majority of them weren’t and very rarely burlesque.

Back in the day, it was convenient to throw around the labels “lady” and “tramp” to classify a woman based on their clothing. Of course, both the words “lady” and “tramp” can be subjective and one judgmental, and the eyes can deceive—that is why to be a lady, her clothing must be accompanied by good manners as well. Boy, that woman would be hard to find now and “more precious than gold.” I definitely enjoy partaking in bathroom jokes often myself. ;-) I am my father’s daughter after all!

Although it’s quite easy to transform a regular outfit to look pin up, or should I say 50s just by simply working on your hairstyle, not every girl knows or has the time to primp glamorous hair right before going to work or school. To me, it’s easier to do that with clothing like with these modern conservative pin up dresses or with actual vintage , but every woman is different. Check out my past outfit below similar to the light grey dress above! I didn’t do anything special with my hair, as you can tell! Free flowing hair without victory rolls makes this look a bit more laid back and less stiff, eh?

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See more of these outfit shots on my Mad Men outfit post. The pillbox hat is for sale on my Etsy.

A vintage gal with the perfect combination of retro hair, makeup, clothing, accessories, ideals, and not to mention pop culture knowledge is an A+! I think I’ve only got the clothing, ideals, and pop culture knowledge part from that checklist. It might be something to live up to, but I think I’m happy with where I am right now. Here are some of my “throw back Thursday” photos from 2010 below. I was so incredibly thin then. I love the curves I’ve developed from my new lifestyle now = happier, healthier, and ironically, fitter! Moving back to the diet they had in the 50s is a step closer to what our bodies are meant to eat. I myself take it back to the paleo times. You won’t need a corset once you start eating like this!

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 Links to original posts: Rosie the Riveter red and yellow outfitBeige office vintage outfitBlue sailor outfit

Vintage with modern elements is more my style. I don’t really want to recreate the common past, but I also don’t want to recreate the pin up past (which a lot of vintage fad followers seem to fall into). I just want to take elements from yesteryears that catch my eye that are both artful and flattering to my body type. I like the conservative but curvy 50s woman paired with the free spirited and fun loving nature of the 60s.

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How about you? What particular vintage style do you like to wear or admire?

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Happy 2014! How have your style and personality changed in the past year? Often times the two go hand in hand. What personally attracts you to Audrey Hepburn vs Marilyn Monroe can tell a whole lot about yourself. I personally take some characteristics from each Hollywood diva. Audrey for general feminine and conservative style and brunette features and Marilyn for her womanly curves!

Although my general style hasn’t changed much (still somewhat modest and into textures), I feel like I’ve matured in my clothing in some ways. I don’t necessarily think that’s a good thing. It’s just different. Less bright colors and A-line skirts and more earth tones, pencil skirts, and fur.

I’ve been really into accentuating with faux fur, especially ever since my obsession with Russian winter styles and Art Deco period pieces (have a look at my previous Art Deco fashion post). I can’t get myself to keep full fur vintage coats though, because it’s a pain to have to take it to the cleaners. I don’t go to dry cleaners ever. I’m actually very practical (or lazy) with the upkeep of my clothes. I try to find clothes that don’t need to be ironed and can withstand a good amount of washing. I will however not pass up buying a good looking vintage fur coat just to put it up on Etsy and maybe use it once!

Although I generally believe in dressing appropriately (e.g. occasions, environment, and modesty beliefs), I don’t really think there’s an “appropriate” color, texture, or even style for a certain age. There may be an association to age, but I really don’t mind seeing 50 year olds with pink hair. In fact, I like it! I wish I could keep up with style as I age, but as some of us know the transition from childhood to adulthood styles often times come naturally. Teens and young adults everywhere wanting to prove their adulthood to the public dress sexier, and we see that in celebrities such as Miley Cyrus. Often times, the transition can get forced or driven by desperation and cry for attention. There is no peace within with such motivation and others will see it through you. If we were all honest with ourselves, we’d know that we all have that darkness in us. We need to expose it by bringing our motivation to light at least to ourselves and perhaps reevaluate why we choose what we wear.

Let’s get faux real. What do you find yourself wearing different since the last year or in the past? What may be the reason(s) behind that change?

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I’m wearing a shell layering dress from Kosher Casual that is advertised to be good for not only layering underneath but also to be worn alone. I paired it with monochrome thrifted vintage faux fur hat and collar with a hint of gold from vintage accessories. The dress isn’t really that tight as pictured honestly. It’s supposed to look more pencil than bodycon. The under bust corset I was wearing underneath clung to the material, especially since it was cold and windy out!

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Thank you kindly to Christine Lingerie for this glamorous gown, first of all! Its’ fine silk makes me feel beautiful and graceful.

A few Christmases ago, a friend of mine gave me a pretty blue plaid dress glistening with metallic yarn. It had long sleeves, a high neck collar, and was right down the shin. I loved the pattern, the color, and the style. However, what I thought was a regular dress turned out to be lingerie! I gave her a funny look once she told me what it was, and she looked back at me and said, “what? it’s modest!”

Another girlfriend giddily handed me a throwback catalog for vintage clothing made for today and pointed to the lingerie section. She told me that this is where I could finally find modest underwear.

These two women were not mocking me at all! They are very dear to me, but they haven’t quite understood what modesty means to me. Some women are modest because they are naturally shy, pious due to religion, held back by cultural expectations, etc. Whatever the reason is, it is my belief that modesty should never, ever, ever exist in the bedroom.

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Why Modesty Does Not Belong in the Bedroom

 Why hold back from your man?
If you do, you’re just inviting more temptation than there already is for your spouse to look for pleasure elsewhere.
It’s an act of love and appreciation towards your spouse, because it takes effort at times to try to look good for someone you’re used to seeing all the time
Because you can’t generally (or want to) wear underwear in public, this is the perfect place to go wild ;-)
Your most beautiful self should be seen by and not hidden from the most important person in your life
 Your outer clothing is for everyone else, but you leave what’s special for the love of your life (or yourself)
Even if your significant other doesn’t appreciate you fully or make mistakes by looking at or thinking about other women, remember that they’re human. They may contribute to or take away your happiness, but they aren’t responsible for your joy.
Honesty not modesty in the bedroom. You two should be perfectly secure in each other’s physical flaws—not just know them but love them.
Wear the sexiest, nastiest, cutest, weirdest lingerie to boost your self confidence within closed doors—whatever floats your boat! Now, look at your self in the mirror. Smile. Wink. Laugh. Dance to your favorite tunes. Have fun while you burn some calories! You are beautiful no matter what others think of you! My husband wondered why I owned sexy undies before we got married, even if I didn’t sleep around. This is why! :)

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How much do you like fun or sexy underwear?

It’s not too late to enter the giveaway for free printed tights! Ends this FRIDAY (12/20)!

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Here’s a song by Grace Jones from 1980 called “Private Life.” Just pretend like she’s talking about your underwear!

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How NOT to Look Sporty When Playing Sports? Alright, maybe not. Unless you want to trick your opponent into thinking you’re a lousy player or just want to add some challenge with your movement, you do want to dress up accordingly!

I was learning how to play tennis all summer, and although I’m not a pro at it, I’ve been enjoying it a lot. I like that it’s a low impact sport but takes skill to be good at. It kind of reminds me of why I like yoga, Pilates, and Tai Chi (essentially, Les Mills‘ Body Flow which I will be teaching early next year!). You don’t need to have an athletic body to be good at it, but you do need to be good at your form.

To be honest, I don’t want to have an athletic body. I like the curves (and energy) I gained by eating a high fat, organic, grass fed, gluten-free, and low toxin diet. For those who are wondering what diet I’m mostly following, I’m on the Bulletproof diet. I might just have to start a new blog about my health and fitness adventures from zero to hero (sorry, I had to say it), but then again I hate to split my life into different blogs!

I absolutely have been obsessed with high waist, below the knee pencil skirts paired with warm slouchy sweaters. High waist anything makes anyone look slightly taller but not necessarily more slender, fyi. I’m wearing a zippered hounds tooth skirt from Make Me Chic, which is a total rockabilly dream!

If you haven’t seen my previous outfit post with another beautiful pencil skirt from Make Me Chic , I talked about how much my body and overall temperament changed because of the good stuff I’ve been eating, with virtually no “cardio exercises.”

Oh and with the exception of the hat and socks, I was not wearing this outfit while on the court!

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“I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe happy girls are the prettiest girls.”

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“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”

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“There’s more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.”
Such as Audrey Hepburn’s beautiful personality and talent, for instance. The quote above kind of reminds me of Ashton Kutcher’s “sexy” speech at the teen choice awards, where he says the the sexiest thing is a person’s brain. audreyhepburn3

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.”

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Make no mistake about it: Audrey Hepburn was a remarkable woman. Not only was she one of the best actresses ever to have graced the silver screen, but she was also a good hearted humanitarian and – according to those who knew her – a lady who lived life to the full. What’s more, she always looked really good while doing it all!

Very few have managed to live up to Audrey Hepburn’s status as the ultimate style icon, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t some great lessons we can all learn and easily put into practice.

THE RIGHT FIT
(and length for your body type)

While Audrey Hepburn wasn’t especially tall, it often surprises people to learn that – at 5’7” – she was a good two or three inches above national average. The perception of her being a dainty girl was, in part, enforced by her being repeatedly cast alongside male leads with domineering statures. Obviously, we can’t all enhance our feminine physiques by appearing alongside, but thankfully there is another principle at play here.

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It all comes down to the FIT of the outfit. No matter whether it was a cocktail dress or a simple blouse, you’d be hard-pressed to find an image of Hepburn wearing an outfit that hung off her like a sack… not to say that you can’t look good in an oversized modest top like in a previous outfit post where I wore a large sweater. Of course you can! ;-)

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Audrey wore a lot of solid colored high neck tops (not necessarily turtle necks) and below the knee skirts and crop pants. Below, you’ll find modern day pieces tailored especially for taller women like her. There are tons of specialty stores for plus sizes and petites but not so much for tall figures. This store I found called Long Elengant Legs is specialty store for women with exactly that!

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NOT A WAIST OF TIME

Audrey also had an incredibly small waist size of 20 inches, which you can achieve through a corset over time. However, if you’re not the type who will put comfort aside for style, you can cheat with high waist bottoms with waist cinchers!

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LIKE DIAMONDS IN THE SKY

Audrey wore large chunky diamond earrings as seen above and also from her classic look from Breakfast at Tiffany’s. The chunky diamond cluster looked kind of like these modern but classic looking diamond earrings. To add class to a regular gingham outfit from the above left photo, she wore diamond hoop earrings. Not everyone can afford or want to spend money on real diamonds, regardless of being them conflict free. This is where cubic zirconia, a fine and cheap alternative to diamonds, comes in.

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Audrey Hepburn’s face was most characterized by her strikingly thick and shapely eyebrows, which can be achieved with a good pair of tweezers and a bit of eyebrow makeup magic. Her hair was usually in a neat updo with some baby “Bettie bangs,” which not everybody can pull off. Audrey’s best beauty advice however is…

 “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”

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