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Oh my, check out these lovely “pin up” style dresses from Pin Up Darling. The cut and length on these dresses flatter any body type and can even give the illusion of having an hourglass figure. What a dream! There’s nothing more attractive than the art of subtlety, which we seem to have lost through the years. Vintage fashion 101: Not all high fashion clothes then were burlesque. In fact, the majority of them weren’t and very rarely burlesque.

Back in the day, it was convenient to throw around the labels “lady” and “tramp” to classify a woman based on their clothing. Of course, both the words “lady” and “tramp” can be subjective and one judgmental, and the eyes can deceive—that is why to be a lady, her clothing must be accompanied by good manners as well. Boy, that woman would be hard to find now and “more precious than gold.” I definitely enjoy partaking in bathroom jokes often myself. ;-) I am my father’s daughter after all!

Although it’s quite easy to transform a regular outfit to look pin up, or should I say 50s just by simply working on your hairstyle, not every girl knows or has the time to primp glamorous hair right before going to work or school. To me, it’s easier to do that with clothing like with these modern conservative pin up dresses or with actual vintage , but every woman is different. Check out my past outfit below similar to the light grey dress above! I didn’t do anything special with my hair, as you can tell! Free flowing hair without victory rolls makes this look a bit more laid back and less stiff, eh?

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See more of these outfit shots on my Mad Men outfit post. The pillbox hat is for sale on my Etsy.

A vintage gal with the perfect combination of retro hair, makeup, clothing, accessories, ideals, and not to mention pop culture knowledge is an A+! I think I’ve only got the clothing, ideals, and pop culture knowledge part from that checklist. It might be something to live up to, but I think I’m happy with where I am right now. Here are some of my “throw back Thursday” photos from 2010 below. I was so incredibly thin then. I love the curves I’ve developed from my new lifestyle now = happier, healthier, and ironically, fitter! Moving back to the diet they had in the 50s is a step closer to what our bodies are meant to eat. I myself take it back to the paleo times. You won’t need a corset once you start eating like this!

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 Links to original posts: Rosie the Riveter red and yellow outfitBeige office vintage outfitBlue sailor outfit

Vintage with modern elements is more my style. I don’t really want to recreate the common past, but I also don’t want to recreate the pin up past (which a lot of vintage fad followers seem to fall into). I just want to take elements from yesteryears that catch my eye that are both artful and flattering to my body type. I like the conservative but curvy 50s woman paired with the free spirited and fun loving nature of the 60s.

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How about you? What particular vintage style do you like to wear or admire?

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Happy 2014! How have your style and personality changed in the past year? Often times the two go hand in hand. What personally attracts you to Audrey Hepburn vs Marilyn Monroe can tell a whole lot about yourself. I personally take some characteristics from each Hollywood diva. Audrey for general feminine and conservative style and brunette features and Marilyn for her womanly curves!

Although my general style hasn’t changed much (still somewhat modest and into textures), I feel like I’ve matured in my clothing in some ways. I don’t necessarily think that’s a good thing. It’s just different. Less bright colors and A-line skirts and more earth tones, pencil skirts, and fur.

I’ve been really into accentuating with faux fur, especially ever since my obsession with Russian winter styles and Art Deco period pieces (have a look at my previous Art Deco fashion post). I can’t get myself to keep full fur vintage coats though, because it’s a pain to have to take it to the cleaners. I don’t go to dry cleaners ever. I’m actually very practical (or lazy) with the upkeep of my clothes. I try to find clothes that don’t need to be ironed and can withstand a good amount of washing. I will however not pass up buying a good looking vintage fur coat just to put it up on Etsy and maybe use it once!

Although I generally believe in dressing appropriately (e.g. occasions, environment, and modesty beliefs), I don’t really think there’s an “appropriate” color, texture, or even style for a certain age. There may be an association to age, but I really don’t mind seeing 50 year olds with pink hair. In fact, I like it! I wish I could keep up with style as I age, but as some of us know the transition from childhood to adulthood styles often times come naturally. Teens and young adults everywhere wanting to prove their adulthood to the public dress sexier, and we see that in celebrities such as Miley Cyrus. Often times, the transition can get forced or driven by desperation and cry for attention. There is no peace within with such motivation and others will see it through you. If we were all honest with ourselves, we’d know that we all have that darkness in us. We need to expose it by bringing our motivation to light at least to ourselves and perhaps reevaluate why we choose what we wear.

Let’s get faux real. What do you find yourself wearing different since the last year or in the past? What may be the reason(s) behind that change?

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I’m wearing a shell layering dress from Kosher Casual that is advertised to be good for not only layering underneath but also to be worn alone. I paired it with monochrome thrifted vintage faux fur hat and collar with a hint of gold from vintage accessories. The dress isn’t really that tight as pictured honestly. It’s supposed to look more pencil than bodycon. The under bust corset I was wearing underneath clung to the material, especially since it was cold and windy out!

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Thank you kindly to Christine Lingerie for this glamorous gown, first of all! Its’ fine silk makes me feel beautiful and graceful.

A few Christmases ago, a friend of mine gave me a pretty blue plaid dress glistening with metallic yarn. It had long sleeves, a high neck collar, and was right down the shin. I loved the pattern, the color, and the style. However, what I thought was a regular dress turned out to be lingerie! I gave her a funny look once she told me what it was, and she looked back at me and said, “what? it’s modest!”

Another girlfriend giddily handed me a throwback catalog for vintage clothing made for today and pointed to the lingerie section. She told me that this is where I could finally find modest underwear.

These two women were not mocking me at all! They are very dear to me, but they haven’t quite understood what modesty means to me. Some women are modest because they are naturally shy, pious due to religion, held back by cultural expectations, etc. Whatever the reason is, it is my belief that modesty should never, ever, ever exist in the bedroom.

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Why Modesty Does Not Belong in the Bedroom

 Why hold back from your man?
If you do, you’re just inviting more temptation than there already is for your spouse to look for pleasure elsewhere.
It’s an act of love and appreciation towards your spouse, because it takes effort at times to try to look good for someone you’re used to seeing all the time
Because you can’t generally (or want to) wear underwear in public, this is the perfect place to go wild ;-)
Your most beautiful self should be seen by and not hidden from the most important person in your life
 Your outer clothing is for everyone else, but you leave what’s special for the love of your life (or yourself)
Even if your significant other doesn’t appreciate you fully or make mistakes by looking at or thinking about other women, remember that they’re human. They may contribute to or take away your happiness, but they aren’t responsible for your joy.
Honesty not modesty in the bedroom. You two should be perfectly secure in each other’s physical flaws—not just know them but love them.
Wear the sexiest, nastiest, cutest, weirdest lingerie to boost your self confidence within closed doors—whatever floats your boat! Now, look at your self in the mirror. Smile. Wink. Laugh. Dance to your favorite tunes. Have fun while you burn some calories! You are beautiful no matter what others think of you! My husband wondered why I owned sexy undies before we got married, even if I didn’t sleep around. This is why! :)

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How much do you like fun or sexy underwear?

It’s not too late to enter the giveaway for free printed tights! Ends this FRIDAY (12/20)!

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Here’s a song by Grace Jones from 1980 called “Private Life.” Just pretend like she’s talking about your underwear!

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How NOT to Look Sporty When Playing Sports? Alright, maybe not. Unless you want to trick your opponent into thinking you’re a lousy player or just want to add some challenge with your movement, you do want to dress up accordingly!

I was learning how to play tennis all summer, and although I’m not a pro at it, I’ve been enjoying it a lot. I like that it’s a low impact sport but takes skill to be good at. It kind of reminds me of why I like yoga, Pilates, and Tai Chi (essentially, Les Mills‘ Body Flow which I will be teaching early next year!). You don’t need to have an athletic body to be good at it, but you do need to be good at your form.

To be honest, I don’t want to have an athletic body. I like the curves (and energy) I gained by eating a high fat, organic, grass fed, gluten-free, and low toxin diet. For those who are wondering what diet I’m mostly following, I’m on the Bulletproof diet. I might just have to start a new blog about my health and fitness adventures from zero to hero (sorry, I had to say it), but then again I hate to split my life into different blogs!

I absolutely have been obsessed with high waist, below the knee pencil skirts paired with warm slouchy sweaters. High waist anything makes anyone look slightly taller but not necessarily more slender, fyi. I’m wearing a zippered hounds tooth skirt from Make Me Chic, which is a total rockabilly dream!

If you haven’t seen my previous outfit post with another beautiful pencil skirt from Make Me Chic , I talked about how much my body and overall temperament changed because of the good stuff I’ve been eating, with virtually no “cardio exercises.”

Oh and with the exception of the hat and socks, I was not wearing this outfit while on the court!

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“I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe happy girls are the prettiest girls.”

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“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”

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“There’s more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.”
Such as Audrey Hepburn’s beautiful personality and talent, for instance. The quote above kind of reminds me of Ashton Kutcher’s “sexy” speech at the teen choice awards, where he says the the sexiest thing is a person’s brain. audreyhepburn3

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.”

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Make no mistake about it: Audrey Hepburn was a remarkable woman. Not only was she one of the best actresses ever to have graced the silver screen, but she was also a good hearted humanitarian and – according to those who knew her – a lady who lived life to the full. What’s more, she always looked really good while doing it all!

Very few have managed to live up to Audrey Hepburn’s status as the ultimate style icon, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t some great lessons we can all learn and easily put into practice.

THE RIGHT FIT
(and length for your body type)

While Audrey Hepburn wasn’t especially tall, it often surprises people to learn that – at 5’7” – she was a good two or three inches above national average. The perception of her being a dainty girl was, in part, enforced by her being repeatedly cast alongside male leads with domineering statures. Obviously, we can’t all enhance our feminine physiques by appearing alongside, but thankfully there is another principle at play here.

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It all comes down to the FIT of the outfit. No matter whether it was a cocktail dress or a simple blouse, you’d be hard-pressed to find an image of Hepburn wearing an outfit that hung off her like a sack… not to say that you can’t look good in an oversized modest top like in a previous outfit post where I wore a large sweater. Of course you can! ;-)

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Audrey wore a lot of solid colored high neck tops (not necessarily turtle necks) and below the knee skirts and crop pants. Below, you’ll find modern day pieces tailored especially for taller women like her. There are tons of specialty stores for plus sizes and petites but not so much for tall figures. This store I found called Long Elengant Legs is specialty store for women with exactly that!

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NOT A WAIST OF TIME

Audrey also had an incredibly small waist size of 20 inches, which you can achieve through a corset over time. However, if you’re not the type who will put comfort aside for style, you can cheat with high waist bottoms with waist cinchers!

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LIKE DIAMONDS IN THE SKY

Audrey wore large chunky diamond earrings as seen above and also from her classic look from Breakfast at Tiffany’s. The chunky diamond cluster looked kind of like these modern but classic looking diamond earrings. To add class to a regular gingham outfit from the above left photo, she wore diamond hoop earrings. Not everyone can afford or want to spend money on real diamonds, regardless of being them conflict free. This is where cubic zirconia, a fine and cheap alternative to diamonds, comes in.

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Audrey Hepburn’s face was most characterized by her strikingly thick and shapely eyebrows, which can be achieved with a good pair of tweezers and a bit of eyebrow makeup magic. Her hair was usually in a neat updo with some baby “Bettie bangs,” which not everybody can pull off. Audrey’s best beauty advice however is…

 “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”

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I was walking around a friend’s neighborhood in the suburbs of New York when these photos were taken. While I was walking around I thought about how old I was and how I should be ready to have a child by now. I’m twenty-six and working on my fifth year of marriage, yet my husband and I have been living like grown-up teenagers. I’ve just embarked on a new chapter in my life where I become a group fitness instructor in a matter of months. This weekend I passed my fitness audition with flying colors, yet I thought, “Should I be doing this much wear and tear to my body at this point in my life? Am I not planning to have a baby soon, but yet here I am with aspirations of teaching with my body, long term and rather frequently?”

Those worrisome thoughts flooded my head right after being on cloud nine when the news of my impending fitness career broke. I’ve never been this involved in athletics in my life, and it feels so strange but also invigorating. I dabbled in sports growing up but never excelled, so finding a new knack—nay, a talent—in teaching yoga and Pilates, just four years before I hit 30 is a huge transformation. This was never me.

A big part of this transformation I believe has a lot to do with the food I’ve chosen to eat in the past couple of years. After being sugar-free, gluten-free, organic, and low-toxin, my body has become incredibly agile and flexible as if I was a lot younger than when I was in high school. My body has started to look more womanly but at the same time athletic. That’s why eating the right food I truly believe is the best medicine for just about any anomaly of the body. If interested in learning about my diet, my husband and I are on a Bulletproof diet, and get our supplements on their website.

Another reason why the transformation came at this time is because I virtually had no freedom to do what I wanted before I got married. My past involved being around overly controlling people that held me back from pursuing anything, even friends. Married life has its own beautiful set of boundaries, but the restrictions are never as abnormal as the state I was in before.

Above all, every good thing comes from God. I may not deserve these changes in my life, but I am really happy and thankful for them. Remembering how I had barely any freedom to choose in the past reminds me of what wonderful opportunities I can take hold of now. That is a blessing.

Now that things have changed, I am now having to decide on things I never had the chance to decide on before, with the inclusion of family life as not just an option… but a goal.

ABOVE OUTFIT:

I have been looking for below-the-knee bodycon-type skirts for a good price and with good patterns for a while, and I stumbled upon this tribal skirt from a neat little corner on the web called Make Me Chic. The quality is amazing. It’s not cheap looking at all. The pattern has a dark hippie or bohemian feel to it. At the same time, it made me think of colorful stained glass.  I have another pencil skirt from Make Me Chic, which I can’t wait to show you in another “tennis” post around this same neighborhood!

My Mad Men Outfit

October 17th, 2013

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Here’s a photo of me and my aunt wearing vintage, taken during reception. Her dress is by Bettie Page Clothing. vintage girls a la modest vintage accessories Fur purse & pill box hat for sale on Etsy!

Since a lot of vintage lovers seem to have THE perfect “Mad Men” outfit, I am posting these photos of what I wore to my brother-in-law’s wedding just this past weekend. Their theme for the wedding was sort of nautical, and it was held at a yacht club overlooking the bay. I whipped up something blue, from the 50s, and was not overtly sailor. I really liked how this outfit turned out!

This dress is vintage and so is the hat. The accessories, namely the eye catching cat eye sunnies and the tribal gold and turquoise necklace are from Beauty’s Own. The best thing about this whole outfit is that it cost me less than $30! The sunglasses are $7 and the necklace is $11! They are both brand new and with amazing quality for the price! I was a bit surprised by how sturdy the glasses were compared to my other pair from Forever 21, which was twice the price and broke apart.  The dress and hat are both thrifted. Weddings need not to be expensive either, and I can see more love and personality put into DIY weddings than fancy and elaborate types.

Have you had your fill of weddings this time of year? Besides celebrating the marriage between two committed souls, I love seeing family and friends get together.

I’m a big fan of online shops that sell inexpensive (thrift store prices) brand new items and are based in the US (for fast shipping). Beauty’s Own is definitely a new addition to my favorites of go-to accessories on a budget! You can add them on Facebook to get free shipping for orders $30 or more (that’s nothing), and you can also use coupon code 10FALL for $10 off.

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