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I wasn’t tempted to wear red shoes with these, because that would’ve totally been Dorothy from Wizard of Oz! I really couldn’t pass this dress up the minute I saw it. I love gingham, but I don’t have enough of it! I also like Peter Pan collars, but this is probably my only piece of clothing with it. I like wearing dresses like these all year long, because I know I can always layer them with something. It gets tough making room in my closet because of this! Anyone have this problem?

The next part of this post might be a bit hard to swallow. If you’re an extreme feminist who ironically can’t stand women putting down other women or are easily offended by religious talk, please don’t move forward. Otherwise, please bare (pun not intended) with me! There’s actually no nudity in this post.

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Not too long ago, I found an online-famous Christian model with a pretty face on Instagram. She looked genuinely nice, so I followed her. If you’ve seen my Instagram account following, I follow so many different kinds of people. I usually follow for the following reasons:

  • * health & fitness message matches up with mine
  • * highly notable or similar personal style
  • * makeup, hair, fashion inspiration
  • * personal or business connections
  • *faith matches up with mine with certain aesthetic appeal

 

This girl I found online whom I’ll call Megan had bible verses up on her social network’s profile. She obviously falls under the last category I listed! In particular, she had Luke 10:27 which is “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This impressed me, because she was associated with a well-known mainstream modeling agency whose models have done high-profile commercials and advertising. Did I mention how quickly I followed her? Yes :) She was brave for telling the world of her faith… or so I thought.

I’m not here to be the faith police or anything, especially not in public! However, believe me that I have done what I could in private. I’m still keeping her identity secret to protect her. I just thought I’d share something so common yet so seldom discussed among the Christian community. If you aren’t Christian, feel free to read on!

I knew Megan had up bikini pictures, scantily clad clothing, and provocative poses, but it didn’t bother me as much as what I saw today. I follow many wonderful girls who do the same, but somehow I often overlook these things because I see that they have great style or hair or whatnot that I can take from and be inspired by. Some of them are even my real life friends. Many of the girls I follow aren’t Christian or at least don’t advertise that they are, so I don’t really expect them to have a similar standard. I was still following Megan the whole time until she posted a topless photo today with only her fingers covering her nipples. This is from the girl who has more Bible verses up on her actual profiles than I do or many of the Christian girls I follow do. Thankfully, Instagram’s no-nudity policy might be the only thing that keeps her from going all nude, but that’s beside the point.

I hate to be judgmental. I hate to be negative. Oftentimes I talk about only positive things on this blog, at least for the past couple of years. It irks me to have to actually get irked about something like this. About Christianity. About modesty. About what the Bible says about our bodies and clothing and sexuality—not just women’s. Yet I feel like I need to.

Both times my messages were ignored by Megan or her agency or whoever it is dealing with her social networks. I know how it feels to be ridiculed, scorned, and bullied into submission. Trust me, I’ve had many people who’ve criticized my clothing and photos online because they weren’t “modest” in their viewpoint. They’re probably right, and I was just letting myself go in some way at the time. I’m actually in the process of removing photos that I’m not too proud of. I didn’t mind that they pointed that out, but I do mind that they were mean and not loving when they confronted me. I confronted Megan in a way that I wanted to be confronted and emphasized that I cared about her enough to say something. I tried to be loving and even said the word “loving.” I didn’t tell her to wear modest clothes, I just pointed out the nudity. I was being what a bare bones, minimalist Christian should do—even if she doesn’t believe in modesty.

I know some of you are thinking, “She can do whatever she wants! Leave her alone.” Yes, anyone can absolutely do whatever anyone wants, and in the same way, I can express my disappointment. If someone calls themselves a vegan, that person shouldn’t obviously eat chicken. Like how the vegan police pointed out that chicken parm and gelato aren’t vegan in the movie Scott Pilgrim vs the World. It needs to be called out. Being nude for everyone to see is not Christian, and Megan professes to be a Christian clearly on her profile. I hope you see this logic. I could hypothetically even be an atheist and point that out. It’s a discrepancy between someone’s words and actions.

What scares me most about Megan is that because she is a professing Christian and ignoring my messages about public display of sexuality, the Bible says that the punishment for those who know the truth yet don’t follow it is more severe than those who don’t know the truth (Matthew 11:20-24, 2 Peter 2:20-22, and James 3:1-2). This means that according to the Bible (not me), murderers and rapists have more of a chance to go to heaven than someone like Megan. I know this sounds harsh, but if you think critically, it is just. It makes sense because murderers and rapists might not know that there is eternal damnation, so when they change their ways and confess, they can be forgiven. For someone like Megan who knows (or at least should know) about heaven and hell yet still willingly continues to live a life of sin, the punishment is going to be worse.

I know it’s hard especially for women with bodies and faces who pass society’s ideals to remain pure. That has always been the case with beautiful women in the past and in the present. The temptation is so hard that I actually feel sorry for them. In a way, I feel content that I am not physically perfect, because the pressure would be too great for me to handle. I feel the same way for wealth, popularity, and success. It would be too much for me and for most Christians to be in Hollywood, because of all the filth, unrealistic ideals, and the competition. I personally think you have to literally give your soul to the devil to be among the rich and famous—and to thrive in show business. I’m not saying they all are Satanists of course, but there’s definitely many that profess to be in Hollywood. I know that sounds scary, but it’s also real.

Being real and trying not to be afraid are the very reasons I’m writing this today. I know I’m going to get beat up for this, but I have to believe that my reward doesn’t exist in the here and now. Everyone else who does otherwise has gotten their fill of what this earth can give them, and many of them are afraid to die for this reason.

Thankfully there are still some people who believe that there is still freedom in speech and religion and fight for this right, despite having opposite opinions. Once someone’s freedom of speech or to practice a religion of their choice goes away, everyone else’s rights could easily be threatened. I hope you keep an open mind to what I am saying even if you don’t have this belief. To those who do, I hope that you can learn from what I am saying and be as bold, if not more, in speaking out in matters of your personal faith.

Do not desire her beauty in your heart, Nor let her capture you with her eyelids. For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
-Proverbs 6:25


For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.
-Romans 1:18-20


 

goodbyesummer It’s been a few weeks since summer officially ended. If the NSA were to print out my search history, they’d find things like “plaid” and “cool sweater” in a lot of my Google search terms! Though I’m excited that Fall has begun, part of me still wishes summer was around.

Why? Besides the warmth and light that longer sunny days bring, I also missed out on a ton of styles and clothes I forgot to add in that may have been best done in the summer.

Here are a few on my list. Please do share yours!

1. Lady like & playful dresses and skirts

For most of the summer, I was either teaching yoga classes or spending time literally spread out on the floor (or the ground) doing everything else from eating to working. Practically, my outfits mostly involved stretchy yoga pants. My style died this summer, but it was an experience well worth it. However, I do miss wearing dainty clothes, dresses, and skirts. I missed out on the playfulness of poodle skirts with bandanas, a sort of modest Bordot-Hepburn combo! Below are some really cute dresses from ReoRia on my “1950’s Clothing” wish list! Of course, my inspiration was Bridgit:

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2. Accessorizing

I did have my fair share of multiple rings and chokers this summer, so I’m not really talking about those. I did miss out on extensively wearing my beloved straw hat as pictured below! I barely wore any hats or sunglasses at all this summer, because I was accessory lazy in general. I also just landed on these things called Skin Candy Tattoos that make temporary tattoos look 10x cooler! So if doing yoga all summer made it impossible to wear hats and jewelry, something like this would be very appropriate!

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3. Biking

My husband just bought me a shiny red Schwinn bike with 21 gears for my birthday last May, and I have not used it on the road! For shame. Maybe this Fall would be better, for the scenery anyway! How often do you see bikes and dresses? Not very often. Maybe I’ll pose pics soon. I could’ve have been having fun like Rita Hayworth and her gang of gals…

 

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4. Going to the Beach

Rob and I have only been to the beach once the entire summer! It’s been hard looking for decent and quiet family beaches with salty water, but that one spontaneous trip to Ocean City was so worth it. No one was barely there, but the weather was gorgeous. We had our fair share of the outdoors in general from “grounding” as often as we could, but there’s nothing like the sand and sea…

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What are some things you think you may have missed out on this summer?

If you’d rather not think about it, what are you looking forward to this fall?

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I immediately thought of a torero (bullfighter in Spanish) when I saw these photos. I had the perfect gold bolero to go with it too that I didn’t wear, which would’ve matched the gold color in the scarf. I have both the vintage blue velvet dress and the vintage gold bolero up on Etsy if you’re interested! A lot of my personal wardrobe is on sale, even if it’s not up on Etsy, so don’t be afraid to ask! There’s no reason to hold on to things I can’t wear a lot anymore. I find myself buying and wearing a lot of sport tops and leggings 90% of the time now ever since fitness instructing!

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ANNOUNCING GOOD DEEDS

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Speaking of toreros, their extravagant outfits are usually very bold and are meant to proclaim who is in charge in the arena with the bull! We see some “torerors” on a daily basis in the manner in which people call for attention.

Lately, I’ve been noticing more and more people announcing their good deeds in public, especially on social networks. Some may  say that there is no good deed, because it is almost always accompanied by the pursuit of good feelings. That’s not always the case, because the effort, time, or resources spent on a good deed sometimes outweighs the elation of doing good, including making someone happy. Of course, that is based on perspective.

Setting that aside, let’s suppose that all good deeds inevitably go hand in hand with good feelings—the earthly reward from God for humanitarianism, regardless of religion. God cares for all people even if they don’t care back. So in this case, wanting more attention for the good deed you’ve done, even if it is in the church setting, seems to me a bit greedy and self righteous. Why want more good feelings when it has already come to you now, such as in the form of gratitude when you once performed the act, or later in Heaven from God?

Besides the proclamation of piety, there is also the chance to vent about someone else’s bad deed in public masked by a veil of holiness. This is nothing short of gossip. When someone does this, I often see support and praise for the gossiper—how patient and gracious they were in the presence of that other “mean” person. Again, fishing for compliments. Never “holy.”

I don’t really blame a lot of folks outside the church for doing this type of thing, but I believe the people within the church should know better. If it’s not accompanied by the urge to ask for more help in this area of service, then I don’t see why there is a point to announce what you’ve done good for others—especially on an empty platform full of people such as Facebook.

Here’s a passage from the Bible that specifically says not to announce your good deeds:

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.

But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

– Matthew 6:1-4

Sadly, I personally feel I must announce my good works, because I get judged for doing “nothing.” Some others may feel the same. It is not always the case that someone is doing nothing good if they don’t talk about it. You can see it by the way they deal or talk with others on a regular basis, what they choose to wear or buy with their money (this might be hard to judge, because a lot of us may look wealthy but buy second hand), what they do in their free time, etc. These in the Christian community are called “fruits.” These fruits are the evidence of a person’s character. They don’t need to talk about their fruits, but they must simply act.

I guess in the presence of trusted friends and family, announcing your good deeds is okay. There’s nothing wrong with sharing everything with people you already share everything with and love. However when you seek for more attention outside this sphere, especially without humbly encouraging others to follow suit, then this essentially reverses the good deed you’ve done.

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Do you sometimes feel tempted or pressured to announce your good deed to others?

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Christmas and New Year’s are coming up, and it’s that time of the year to spend (time and money) on others instead of yourself. However, you don’t want your personal low budget to rain on your wanting to show how festive you are as a fashionista. What do you do? If your hands can knit or sew, you upcycle. If you have a good eye but not hands, you go thrifting. If you are any of these but don’t have the patience or time to make something or look through racks of old clothing, you turn online for vintage or unique dresses.

So, here you are! Your quick and easy guide to doing just that—buying used and affordable but unique dresses on the web!

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Etsy

Most of us still think that eBay has the best deals. That’s not always the case. When I used to sell on eBay, what I thought was just going to sell for double the price I started the auction for turned out to be way more valuable than I initially expected. On Etsy, there is no bidding. So if you and five others want the same item, it’s on a first come/serve basis. An Etsy seller will not want to jack up the price way more than what their item is selling for on average on eBay, because they know very well that Etsy doesn’t get as much exposure as eBay, so that they don’t want to risk having their items sit in their inventory for a long time.

A lot of Etsy sellers give out discount codes on their social networks too, which you don’t normally see on eBay. I personally think Etsy folks are kinder, so they’re more approachable in terms of haggling.

On Etsy, you can see how many people added the item as their favorite. The higher the number, the more exposure and interest it got. If you care about the buzz you generate from your holiday outfit, this number will help you decide if it will do just that once you have it on. Sometimes however a certain dress can be the loveliest thing you’ve ever laid your eyes on, but it didn’t get many favorites because barely anyone saw it on their search results.

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1- Velvet Peplum Peter Pan Collar Houndstooth Dress 1980s
2 – NAEEM KHAN Riazee Nights Saks Fifth Avenue Suzarila – 1980s
3 – Sitwell US Patent Skirt 1940s/1950s

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Online rentals

Just like how men can rent suits and tuxes for a wedding, women can rent designer dresses online.  Rent the Runway is the real life version of Parks and Rec’s Tom Hannaford’s Rent a Swag, and you can find them and many other online rentals by doing a quick Google search. They have an app that you can download on your phone for on the go rental browsing.

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Online consignment shops

I think this is one of the coolest things I’ve found the past year—online consigning. Littlethings.ie is the example I’m going to use for our cheap, used, and unique holiday dresses guide, but they are many others out there as well. You can either sell them your clothes for an agreed price upfront or you can get a higher cut by having them consigned. Most online consignment stores send you a shipping label electronically, and all you have to do is to wrap up your items in a box with that prepaid label.

The awesome thing about online consigning is that you can share your items to your social networks. Your circle of friends combined with their customer base make a good pool of potential buyers for your gently used clothing!

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* For fancy holiday lingerie gifts for someone special, here’s a 25% OFF code (SHOP NOW) from me for Christine Lingerie

* The giveaway for  printed text tights ends 12/20!

 

 

Shabby Apple Tartans Tweeds
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Ceud mìle fàilte! That means one hundred thousand welcomes in Gaelic/Scottish. Shabby Apple just introduced its new Fall 2013 collection called Tartans and Tweeds. I say, I’m really loving this new collection. I have above some of my most favorite. I like the above outfits the most, because they’d look good alone even without elaborating with accessories and hair, don’t you think? Some dresses need something to compliment it with, but you don’t have to with these. The faux fur, the tweed, the tartan are more than enough to wow you! Check out some more of Shabby Apple’s vintage clothing.

Did you know that the word tartan just means plaid in North America, but in Scottland, plaid means a piece of tartan cloth hung over the shoulder or just a plain bed sheet?  I really like learning about differences in culture, time, and culture through time. Tweed is a material that used to be worn only by the upper class, and now we can enjoy it no matter what stature. Oh, bless equality!

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GIVEAWAY

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Shabby Apple is giving away a dress of YOUR choice (not from this collection).  Ends 10/13! I will contact the winner for their dress choice.

All you have to do is to add Shabby Apple on Facebook & Instragram AND leave comments throughout this blog and/or A LA MODEST’s Instagram. No need to submit the URLs. Just comment on this post your name and e-mail and confirm that you’ve followed Shabby Apple. This contest IS NOT random, so make sure you leave as many comments as you can throughout the giveaway!

You can comment:

1. On any non-giveaway post on Alamodest.com with the name and e-mail you used to enter the contest.

2. On any fairly recent photo on A LA MODEST’s Instagram

3. Check out my latest sponsor Christine Lingerie and tell me in a comment what you like best from their page.

GOOD LUCK, SWEETIES!

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CONGRATS TO THE WINNER!
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The Lines Are Rebelling

June 13th, 2013

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Dress: eShakti (direct link here)
Belt: Hermes & Express (layered)
Necklace: Vintage
Loafers: Debenhams

It’s hurricane season right now, and here I am posting some overly due photos from bright and sunny yesterdays! I got this 40s style dress with a “princess cut” from eShakti whom I discovered had a personalized tailoring service. Not only can you provide your measurements, but you can also customize the length of the dress, the sleeves, the pockets, and the neckline for a lot of their dresses. Nifty. It’s a bit pricey, but it looks to be fairly priced considering the personalization. This is a fantastic resource for retro-loving wedding planners seeking to get customized bridesmaid dresses.

Oh yes, it’s hurricane AND wedding season this time of year too! The news has been a downer about inclement weather calamities lately, but then again, when has it not been? I pray for everyone’s safety.

What I like most about this dress is the stripes on the top part that subtly go in different directions. I just got another blouse that did the same thing. It’s like the lines are rebelling against the usual order of things.

I wore this dress out on a regular Sunday morning with a casual pair of wedge loafers, which you can get for a really good deal (or other things) with some debenhams offer codes online. I force myself to look up coupon codes literally every time I shop online. I don’t cut out physical coupons, because I think that’s a waste of time. However, I totally have no excuse to not do a quick search on coupons for websites where I shop. It’s a money-saving compulsion. It only becomes a problem if I waste more than a couple of minutes for coupon codes! Coupons shouldn’t be a vice.

Cirque du Clique

April 2nd, 2013

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Jacket: Vintage

Leotard shell: Ann Taylor

Dress: Ross?

Bag: Hermes

Boots: Capelta Couture

My hubby and I finally saw Cirque du Soleil (“Totem”) for the first time live in NYC where we had our fourth anniversary. See my Instagram photo with a purple-haired female Cirque performer here and Pippo Crotti’s comment.  It was a lot of fun spending almost a week in the city but also a lot of spending money! Ouch. Everything we did was well worth it though. Rob and I had been eating mostly organic since he got sick, and thankfully the city had oodles of exquisite places to eat. Our favorite however was Siggy’s Good Food, and we stopped by almost everyday of the week during our stay. The owner Siggy and the employees were super nice, and I almost cried when I had the almond protein smoothie.

Besides touristy activities, we also made our rounds to different shops including thrift stores (of course), and I found this old and beat up Hermes bag just laying in a bin! It’s incredibly filthy and has what looks like bleach stains on it, but I had to pick it up just so that I could say I found a Hermes bag for the first time in my thrifting history!

I decided to write a bit about our New York trip that we took about a year ago, because this outfit kind of looks like a circus ensemble. It’s mainly because of the stripes and the bubble sleeves on my jacket just like Rainbow Brite’s. I think these Clique boots‘ chains that I got from Capelta Couture also add to it. These are the same exact boots worn by a girl from Jersey Shore (not a fan of that show, to be honest). The chains are actually detachable, so you can choose to wear them without the chains for a more neutral look. You can transfer the chains to some other pair of boots as well *wink*.

I know I’ve been hosting a lot of giveaways, and apparently that’s a big no-no according to IFB. Oh honestly, I despite selling out. However, when I get a chance to give something back to you guys, I take it whenever I can. I only really give away things I generally approve of. That makes everyone happy :) Expect more freebies!

With that said, Capelta Couture has donated a pair of Clique boots to the winner of this random drawing!

The results of this giveaway are based on random drawing. Remember, the more entries you have, the more chances of winning. Good luck! Open to all (US and international) and will end on Sunday, April 14th at 12 am EST.

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