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Oh my, check out these lovely “pin up” style dresses from Pin Up Darling. The cut and length on these dresses flatter any body type and can even give the illusion of having an hourglass figure. What a dream! There’s nothing more attractive than the art of subtlety, which we seem to have lost through the years. Vintage fashion 101: Not all high fashion clothes then were burlesque. In fact, the majority of them weren’t and very rarely burlesque.

Back in the day, it was convenient to throw around the labels “lady” and “tramp” to classify a woman based on their clothing. Of course, both the words “lady” and “tramp” can be subjective and one judgmental, and the eyes can deceive—that is why to be a lady, her clothing must be accompanied by good manners as well. Boy, that woman would be hard to find now and “more precious than gold.” I definitely enjoy partaking in bathroom jokes often myself. ;-) I am my father’s daughter after all!

Although it’s quite easy to transform a regular outfit to look pin up, or should I say 50s just by simply working on your hairstyle, not every girl knows or has the time to primp glamorous hair right before going to work or school. To me, it’s easier to do that with clothing like with these modern conservative pin up dresses or with actual vintage , but every woman is different. Check out my past outfit below similar to the light grey dress above! I didn’t do anything special with my hair, as you can tell! Free flowing hair without victory rolls makes this look a bit more laid back and less stiff, eh?

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See more of these outfit shots on my Mad Men outfit post. The pillbox hat is for sale on my Etsy.

A vintage gal with the perfect combination of retro hair, makeup, clothing, accessories, ideals, and not to mention pop culture knowledge is an A+! I think I’ve only got the clothing, ideals, and pop culture knowledge part from that checklist. It might be something to live up to, but I think I’m happy with where I am right now. Here are some of my “throw back Thursday” photos from 2010 below. I was so incredibly thin then. I love the curves I’ve developed from my new lifestyle now = happier, healthier, and ironically, fitter! Moving back to the diet they had in the 50s is a step closer to what our bodies are meant to eat. I myself take it back to the paleo times. You won’t need a corset once you start eating like this!

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 Links to original posts: Rosie the Riveter red and yellow outfitBeige office vintage outfitBlue sailor outfit

Vintage with modern elements is more my style. I don’t really want to recreate the common past, but I also don’t want to recreate the pin up past (which a lot of vintage fad followers seem to fall into). I just want to take elements from yesteryears that catch my eye that are both artful and flattering to my body type. I like the conservative but curvy 50s woman paired with the free spirited and fun loving nature of the 60s.

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How about you? What particular vintage style do you like to wear or admire?

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Happy 2014! How have your style and personality changed in the past year? Often times the two go hand in hand. What personally attracts you to Audrey Hepburn vs Marilyn Monroe can tell a whole lot about yourself. I personally take some characteristics from each Hollywood diva. Audrey for general feminine and conservative style and brunette features and Marilyn for her womanly curves!

Although my general style hasn’t changed much (still somewhat modest and into textures), I feel like I’ve matured in my clothing in some ways. I don’t necessarily think that’s a good thing. It’s just different. Less bright colors and A-line skirts and more earth tones, pencil skirts, and fur.

I’ve been really into accentuating with faux fur, especially ever since my obsession with Russian winter styles and Art Deco period pieces (have a look at my previous Art Deco fashion post). I can’t get myself to keep full fur vintage coats though, because it’s a pain to have to take it to the cleaners. I don’t go to dry cleaners ever. I’m actually very practical (or lazy) with the upkeep of my clothes. I try to find clothes that don’t need to be ironed and can withstand a good amount of washing. I will however not pass up buying a good looking vintage fur coat just to put it up on Etsy and maybe use it once!

Although I generally believe in dressing appropriately (e.g. occasions, environment, and modesty beliefs), I don’t really think there’s an “appropriate” color, texture, or even style for a certain age. There may be an association to age, but I really don’t mind seeing 50 year olds with pink hair. In fact, I like it! I wish I could keep up with style as I age, but as some of us know the transition from childhood to adulthood styles often times come naturally. Teens and young adults everywhere wanting to prove their adulthood to the public dress sexier, and we see that in celebrities such as Miley Cyrus. Often times, the transition can get forced or driven by desperation and cry for attention. There is no peace within with such motivation and others will see it through you. If we were all honest with ourselves, we’d know that we all have that darkness in us. We need to expose it by bringing our motivation to light at least to ourselves and perhaps reevaluate why we choose what we wear.

Let’s get faux real. What do you find yourself wearing different since the last year or in the past? What may be the reason(s) behind that change?

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I’m wearing a shell layering dress from Kosher Casual that is advertised to be good for not only layering underneath but also to be worn alone. I paired it with monochrome thrifted vintage faux fur hat and collar with a hint of gold from vintage accessories. The dress isn’t really that tight as pictured honestly. It’s supposed to look more pencil than bodycon. The under bust corset I was wearing underneath clung to the material, especially since it was cold and windy out!

Winter Wedding Wonderland

December 28th, 2013

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Taking a look at these fabulous winter wedding photos, I wonder why there aren’t a lot of weddings at this time. I have to say though, the brides that dress appropriate for the weather look like magical ice princesses. It may take more guts to bare your shoulders and chest in the cold, but I just personally prefer the bundled up bride when surrounded by snow.  She’s beautiful, smart, and practical. What a wife to be!

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Source:  Dmitri Yakimov Dmosu

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If you do a quick search on Pinterest (Googling isn’t the only way) on winter weddings, you’ll see tons of inspiration from center pieces to Bridal PeticoatsWedding Veils automatically add a vintage touch to any wedding gown. Paired with Wedding Gloves and maybe a white umbrella (a la Mary Poppins), that’ll really take you way back! Although it’s also fun to play around with flora and fauna on the crown of your head instead of a veil like the woman above. She looks somewhat otherworldly with her makeup as well, and I just love that. Some people might not want to “ruin” their once in a lifetime chance on a wedding with an art project. I say, that is a great opportunity to do it!

According to Brides.com, long sleeved bride dresses were a huge trend in 2013. I myself wore a long sleeved gown with a full veil that was passed on to me by my mother-in-law. See a photo of Rob and I from our wedding in 2009 below taking “selfies” (most used and hated word of this year) with our phone!

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I was somewhat surprised that David’s Bridal carried a “modest” line (the category that makes the most sense for winter), but the only two dresses within that category on their website didn’t have long sleeves. To transform their existing conservative gowns for a winter wedding, you need only pair it with a fur shrug or a classy wool poncho like in the examples above—maybe even with a hot cup of cocoa in one hand and your hubby’s hand in the other for that extra warmth!

Here is a lovely example below of a simple but sophisticated wedding gown perfect for winter. I love the “backbone” in this dress from Allure Bridals:

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Would you ever go for a winter wedding if you had to do it all over again (or in the future for the single ladies)?

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Thank you kindly to Christine Lingerie for this glamorous gown, first of all! Its’ fine silk makes me feel beautiful and graceful.

A few Christmases ago, a friend of mine gave me a pretty blue plaid dress glistening with metallic yarn. It had long sleeves, a high neck collar, and was right down the shin. I loved the pattern, the color, and the style. However, what I thought was a regular dress turned out to be lingerie! I gave her a funny look once she told me what it was, and she looked back at me and said, “what? it’s modest!”

Another girlfriend giddily handed me a throwback catalog for vintage clothing made for today and pointed to the lingerie section. She told me that this is where I could finally find modest underwear.

These two women were not mocking me at all! They are very dear to me, but they haven’t quite understood what modesty means to me. Some women are modest because they are naturally shy, pious due to religion, held back by cultural expectations, etc. Whatever the reason is, it is my belief that modesty should never, ever, ever exist in the bedroom.

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Why Modesty Does Not Belong in the Bedroom

 Why hold back from your man?
If you do, you’re just inviting more temptation than there already is for your spouse to look for pleasure elsewhere.
It’s an act of love and appreciation towards your spouse, because it takes effort at times to try to look good for someone you’re used to seeing all the time
Because you can’t generally (or want to) wear underwear in public, this is the perfect place to go wild ;-)
Your most beautiful self should be seen by and not hidden from the most important person in your life
 Your outer clothing is for everyone else, but you leave what’s special for the love of your life (or yourself)
Even if your significant other doesn’t appreciate you fully or make mistakes by looking at or thinking about other women, remember that they’re human. They may contribute to or take away your happiness, but they aren’t responsible for your joy.
Honesty not modesty in the bedroom. You two should be perfectly secure in each other’s physical flaws—not just know them but love them.
Wear the sexiest, nastiest, cutest, weirdest lingerie to boost your self confidence within closed doors—whatever floats your boat! Now, look at your self in the mirror. Smile. Wink. Laugh. Dance to your favorite tunes. Have fun while you burn some calories! You are beautiful no matter what others think of you! My husband wondered why I owned sexy undies before we got married, even if I didn’t sleep around. This is why! :)

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How much do you like fun or sexy underwear?

It’s not too late to enter the giveaway for free printed tights! Ends this FRIDAY (12/20)!

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Here’s a song by Grace Jones from 1980 called “Private Life.” Just pretend like she’s talking about your underwear!

My Mad Men Outfit

October 17th, 2013

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Here’s a photo of me and my aunt wearing vintage, taken during reception. Her dress is by Bettie Page Clothing. vintage girls a la modest vintage accessories Fur purse & pill box hat for sale on Etsy!

Since a lot of vintage lovers seem to have THE perfect “Mad Men” outfit, I am posting these photos of what I wore to my brother-in-law’s wedding just this past weekend. Their theme for the wedding was sort of nautical, and it was held at a yacht club overlooking the bay. I whipped up something blue, from the 50s, and was not overtly sailor. I really liked how this outfit turned out!

This dress is vintage and so is the hat. The accessories, namely the eye catching cat eye sunnies and the tribal gold and turquoise necklace are from Beauty’s Own. The best thing about this whole outfit is that it cost me less than $30! The sunglasses are $7 and the necklace is $11! They are both brand new and with amazing quality for the price! I was a bit surprised by how sturdy the glasses were compared to my other pair from Forever 21, which was twice the price and broke apart.  The dress and hat are both thrifted. Weddings need not to be expensive either, and I can see more love and personality put into DIY weddings than fancy and elaborate types.

Have you had your fill of weddings this time of year? Besides celebrating the marriage between two committed souls, I love seeing family and friends get together.

I’m a big fan of online shops that sell inexpensive (thrift store prices) brand new items and are based in the US (for fast shipping). Beauty’s Own is definitely a new addition to my favorites of go-to accessories on a budget! You can add them on Facebook to get free shipping for orders $30 or more (that’s nothing), and you can also use coupon code 10FALL for $10 off.

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Some of us don’t wait for Halloween to wear “costumes.” For us, wearing elaborate or theme-inspired clothing is a daily matter. You call it costumes, we call it a way of living! Last year, I wrote about escaping from “Sartorial Stereotypes” for Halloween with just a quick list of ideas.  So, for most people who are just looking for cool and obscure references for their Halloween costumes, how about you take a hint from the lovely Lene Lovich?

Lene Lovich (born Lili-Marlene Premilovich) is an American singer-songwriter New Wave artist from the late 70s-early 80s (my favorite period!). Her most famous hit was “Lucky Number.” This lady, although born in Detroit came from an English mother and an Yugoslavian father. She also went back to her mother’s country for an extensive period to study art. In fact, her iconic hairstyle with scarves came from how she covered her hair to keep it away while sculpting!

Looking at her clothing and hair in plaits,  you can’t help but think of traditional Yugoslavian attire, most likely influenced by her father’s side. Below are a couple of photos of the country’s costume for women:

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Lene Lovich’s “Lucky Number” music video:

 

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This right here is pretty much what I wear on a regular basis these days—capris, sneakers, t-shirt, and a vest. There’s really not much I personally do to accessorize when the heat is just that bad, because I don’t really wear much jewelry. A vest is a good layering piece to make an ordinary t-shirt look modest and not so boring.

These photos were taken with an iPhone last week in Norfolk while I was visiting family in Virginia Beach. I swear, sometimes my phone takes better photographs than my camera! It helps that I was surrounded by beautiful shrubbery right in front of a quaint green house.

While I was headed back home to Baltimore, Rob and I decided to stop a thrift store. He and I parted ways to scurry through treasures found in different parts of the store. I was later approached by a man maybe in his mid 40s while I was going through the female tops rack. The conversation went on a little something like this:

My Conversation with a Creepy Stranger

Man: Is this for women? *smiles, pointing to the clothes then pointing at me from top to bottom*
Me: Yes, these are for women. *goes back to what I was doing, sorting through the tops*
Man: These are nice. I’m buying for a friend.
Me: Oh, okay. You’ll find a lot of good things here. *smiles*
Man: So, what’s your name? *smiles*
Me: No, I’m not going to tell you my name. *I wouldn’t normally be this rude, but he was looking at me so intensely*
Man: Huh? What’s that?
Me: My name’s Rachel. *looks back at him*
Man: I’m ______. What do you do, for job?
Me: I have a store. *continues to sift through clothing as a hint to get lost but looking back at him when answering a question*
Man: Oh, so what do you sell? Art?
Me: Umm, a lot of things. Like, CDs.
Man: You’re very beautiful. What’s your background?
Me: Thanks. Hmm, how about you make a guess?
Man: You’re Filipina, no?
Me: Ha, you’re the first person in a long time to ever guess that right. Not even Filipinos think I’m Filipino.
Man: I know some Filipino! Magandang gabi. Kamusta. Uh, what else…
Me: It’s magandang hapon for the afternoon.
Man: Oh yeah yah, magandang hapon.*big smile* Where do you live?
Me: I’m not from around here.
Man: Oh, really? Me too. I’m from Washington.
Me: Oh, okay.
Man: Where are you from?
Me: Maryland.
Man: Oh, Maryland, huh? So what are you doing here?
Me:  I was visiting my parents.
Man: How long you staying?
Me: I’m leaving today. I’m going back home today. *that was really true*
Man: Aww. Can we exchange phone numbers?
Me: No, I’m married. *points to my ring finger*
Man: Oh okay. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. *smiling* *pause* You have kids?
Me: No. No kids.
Man: Ah, no kids. So are you visiting alone, or…?
Me: No, with my husband. He’s in this store somewhere right now.
Man: *looks around nervously* Ah, I see. Maybe if we exchange e-mail, it’s safe. Okay? Is that okay?
Me: No, I’m sorry.
Man: Okay, how about I give you my e-mail? You’ll have my e-mail.
Me: No… I’m sorry.

My Verdict

The man in this conversation wasn’t what I call harassing me. Maybe a bit persistent but not harassing. He was probably lonely and looking for some company, innocent or not. What I don’t like however is that he kept pushing me to exchange contact information after I said no and also tried to keep our communication “secret” from my husband by suggesting we do e-mail, because it’s “safe.” The nerve! A few people in the store saw the whole thing and a woman just shook her head and said “Oh gosh, some people!”

I’m not against guys walking up to girls and asking them for their numbers (or e-mail). I don’t think that’s creepy. Some girls, if they thought the stranger was cute would give him her number any day. To say someone is “creepy” just because you don’t like how he looks is two faced. The same idea goes for girls wearing revealing clothing to hopefully invite the cute guys and not the “creepy” guys who they just think is unattractive. That’s just mean and unfair to label someone a creep, when it’s biased and totally based on looks.

However, I do think someone is a creep for pursuing someone they know is married. That applies to women who know a man is married. Women can be creeps too (equal and opposite…genders). Men and women, look for the ring first before you start flirting with someone. If they hide their being married, that’s on them.

For your viewing pleasure and nostalgia, here’s TLC (hope you get the reference):

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