I wasn’t tempted to wear red shoes with these, because that would’ve totally been Dorothy from Wizard of Oz! I really couldn’t pass this dress up the minute I saw it. I love gingham, but I don’t have enough of it! I also like Peter Pan collars, but this is probably my only piece of clothing with it. I like wearing dresses like these all year long, because I know I can always layer them with something. It gets tough making room in my closet because of this! Anyone have this problem?
The next part of this post might be a bit hard to swallow. If you’re an extreme feminist who ironically can’t stand women putting down other women or are easily offended by religious talk, please don’t move forward. Otherwise, please bare (pun not intended) with me! There’s actually no nudity in this post.
Not too long ago, I found an online-famous Christian model with a pretty face on Instagram. She looked genuinely nice, so I followed her. If you’ve seen my Instagram account following, I follow so many different kinds of people. I usually follow for the following reasons:
- * health & fitness message matches up with mine
- * highly notable or similar personal style
- * makeup, hair, fashion inspiration
- * personal or business connections
- *faith matches up with mine with certain aesthetic appeal
This girl I found online whom I’ll call Megan had bible verses up on her social network’s profile. She obviously falls under the last category I listed! In particular, she had Luke 10:27 which is “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This impressed me, because she was associated with a well-known mainstream modeling agency whose models have done high-profile commercials and advertising. Did I mention how quickly I followed her? Yes :) She was brave for telling the world of her faith… or so I thought.
I’m not here to be the faith police or anything, especially not in public! However, believe me that I have done what I could in private. I’m still keeping her identity secret to protect her. I just thought I’d share something so common yet so seldom discussed among the Christian community. If you aren’t Christian, feel free to read on!
I knew Megan had up bikini pictures, scantily clad clothing, and provocative poses, but it didn’t bother me as much as what I saw today. I follow many wonderful girls who do the same, but somehow I often overlook these things because I see that they have great style or hair or whatnot that I can take from and be inspired by. Some of them are even my real life friends. Many of the girls I follow aren’t Christian or at least don’t advertise that they are, so I don’t really expect them to have a similar standard. I was still following Megan the whole time until she posted a topless photo today with only her fingers covering her nipples. This is from the girl who has more Bible verses up on her actual profiles than I do or many of the Christian girls I follow do. Thankfully, Instagram’s no-nudity policy might be the only thing that keeps her from going all nude, but that’s beside the point.
I hate to be judgmental. I hate to be negative. Oftentimes I talk about only positive things on this blog, at least for the past couple of years. It irks me to have to actually get irked about something like this. About Christianity. About modesty. About what the Bible says about our bodies and clothing and sexuality—not just women’s. Yet I feel like I need to.
Both times my messages were ignored by Megan or her agency or whoever it is dealing with her social networks. I know how it feels to be ridiculed, scorned, and bullied into submission. Trust me, I’ve had many people who’ve criticized my clothing and photos online because they weren’t “modest” in their viewpoint. They’re probably right, and I was just letting myself go in some way at the time. I’m actually in the process of removing photos that I’m not too proud of. I didn’t mind that they pointed that out, but I do mind that they were mean and not loving when they confronted me. I confronted Megan in a way that I wanted to be confronted and emphasized that I cared about her enough to say something. I tried to be loving and even said the word “loving.” I didn’t tell her to wear modest clothes, I just pointed out the nudity. I was being what a bare bones, minimalist Christian should do—even if she doesn’t believe in modesty.
I know some of you are thinking, “She can do whatever she wants! Leave her alone.” Yes, anyone can absolutely do whatever anyone wants, and in the same way, I can express my disappointment. If someone calls themselves a vegan, that person shouldn’t obviously eat chicken. Like how the vegan police pointed out that chicken parm and gelato aren’t vegan in the movie Scott Pilgrim vs the World. It needs to be called out. Being nude for everyone to see is not Christian, and Megan professes to be a Christian clearly on her profile. I hope you see this logic. I could hypothetically even be an atheist and point that out. It’s a discrepancy between someone’s words and actions.
What scares me most about Megan is that because she is a professing Christian and ignoring my messages about public display of sexuality, the Bible says that the punishment for those who know the truth yet don’t follow it is more severe than those who don’t know the truth (Matthew 11:20-24, 2 Peter 2:20-22, and James 3:1-2). This means that according to the Bible (not me), murderers and rapists have more of a chance to go to heaven than someone like Megan. I know this sounds harsh, but if you think critically, it is just. It makes sense because murderers and rapists might not know that there is eternal damnation, so when they change their ways and confess, they can be forgiven. For someone like Megan who knows (or at least should know) about heaven and hell yet still willingly continues to live a life of sin, the punishment is going to be worse.
I know it’s hard especially for women with bodies and faces who pass society’s ideals to remain pure. That has always been the case with beautiful women in the past and in the present. The temptation is so hard that I actually feel sorry for them. In a way, I feel content that I am not physically perfect, because the pressure would be too great for me to handle. I feel the same way for wealth, popularity, and success. It would be too much for me and for most Christians to be in Hollywood, because of all the filth, unrealistic ideals, and the competition. I personally think you have to literally give your soul to the devil to be among the rich and famous—and to thrive in show business. I’m not saying they all are Satanists of course, but there’s definitely many that profess to be in Hollywood. I know that sounds scary, but it’s also real.
Being real and trying not to be afraid are the very reasons I’m writing this today. I know I’m going to get beat up for this, but I have to believe that my reward doesn’t exist in the here and now. Everyone else who does otherwise has gotten their fill of what this earth can give them, and many of them are afraid to die for this reason.
Thankfully there are still some people who believe that there is still freedom in speech and religion and fight for this right, despite having opposite opinions. Once someone’s freedom of speech or to practice a religion of their choice goes away, everyone else’s rights could easily be threatened. I hope you keep an open mind to what I am saying even if you don’t have this belief. To those who do, I hope that you can learn from what I am saying and be as bold, if not more, in speaking out in matters of your personal faith.
Do not desire her beauty in your heart, Nor let her capture you with her eyelids. For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.