The Many Sides is a shopping hub for indie, alternative, edgy, and creative fashion. You could almost think of it as an art gallery where you could purchase the pieces and wear them! I gathered my favorite winter clothes from their website to show you! It seems like I found a favorite designer as well—Alice’s Pig. They had me at tartan. Plus of course, the fur and the whole 90s school girl vibe. Sadly, my school’s uniform that I wore from first grade all the way to freshman year was not plaid. I’m making up for it now! Alice’s Pig is a reflection of my ideal wardrobe, at least as of lately. It’s grunge but preppy and rebellious but conservative. That about sums me up! Oh, and geometry?
The tooth necklace above is from the designer Bukkehave. If I was into shopping for jewelry much, I would want to have their collection. It’s ghastly, dark, and downright beautiful.
The coat below is cute (also from Alice’s Pig), but I really just put this photo up because I can’t believe how strikingly similar this model’s face looks like mine in some photos when I had solid black hair!
Had I been writing this back in 2010, I would’ve picked Yohan Kim from The Many Sides as my favorite designer, down to the choice of hair and makeup. Below is an example of his work. I still marvel at the designs!
To give praise to the other awesome designers, I’ve included below Morphe to the left and Efi Dolcini to the right.
So, on to the best part! The Many Sides is giving away two £50 vouchers to TWO winners! If you look at their website, you could surprisingly find many that are worth that much or less. My favorite top I featured above from Alice’s Pig for example is only £38.
Around the time these photos were taken, I was approached by a couple of individuals, male and female, who called my attention out of nowhere because they had an interesting suggestion for my blog. Out of what seemed like a genuine concern to help my modest “popularity,” I listened.
They suggested I take on different models to pose either with me or instead of me in some posts. They said that this would be a great idea to get more people interested in reading my blog because people naturally want “variety.”
Without thinking too much about the suggestion (although I did ponder why they were thinking about this), I thanked them for trying to help out and let them know that this was a good thought—something that I myself have attempted to do in the past but didn’t quite pan out.
Then they continued talking.
One of them told me to get someone tall, and the other said to get someone more full figured. I am neither of those, of course.
These people aren’t strangers to me, mind you. I’ve known them for a while. I generally feel comfortable around them, except when they show how shallow they can be at times. At this point, I was feeling a bit insecure.
Thinking about how the topic was on variety, I smiled and said in response, “you mean like a Dove commercial?” The man smiled back, but I sensed that he didn’t find that kind of variety attractive, because he said nothing in response and moved on.
They both said the more people I get interested by having a variety of girls in the pictures, the more advertisers will want my blog. Sure, we all know that hype makes you popular, thus making you more desirable to companies, but something about this conversation really irked me. It wasn’t that I was to share my personal blog with other girls (I actually wouldn’t mind and like that), but it was the curious motivation behind it that bothered me.
I don’t really think primarily in terms of advertisers when I write out my posts. Sure, I do care about SEO, but I am not a walking billboard or a sellout whose goal in life is to get followers. I think people started following me in the beginning, because I was saying things so unpopular and seemingly offensive. My intentions, for those who truly know my heart, were nothing but of love of course.
I started this blog because I had a burning longing to want to express myself, my lifestyle philosophies expressed through clothing. I remembered thinking four years ago that if ALAMODEST falls on deaf ears, so be it. I’m not as loud about my ideals as I was then, but my beliefs hold true. The people who are just reading this now may not know how I used to write back then, but I highly miss it… and I’m sure some of you do too.
I know that I’m not that popular compared to other bloggers and that I don’t write posts very often (at least not on this blog), but I feel okay where I am right now. At least, I am being myself.
Sometimes being modest in popularity is a good thing. It could be negative but also could be a sign that you’re staying true to yourself and not acting just like everyone else, or how others expect you to act—even among the “indie” crowd. Wherever you are in your blog statistics or offline social status, love and embrace yourself.
The awesome boots I’m wearing are from a company called Juil. They are grounding shoes that are meant to connect you to the earth and give you health benefits. For those who may have never heard of grounding at all, you can read or watch a video of our review of these shoes (and more) on our other blog MODERN LIFE SURVIVALIST.
I really like the print on this kimono from Anthropologie, but alas I am selling it on my store because I think someone will love it even more. It’s brand new with tag and retails for $128. Message me or buy from my store if interested!
My back was turned in all but one of these photos, because the shoulders and the backbone of this top are where the fun is! I was wearing an orange Nike tank underneath straight out of the gym, and that is what you see shining through the see through spine. If I had worn a multicolor tank top underneath this, it would’ve been a perfect chakra representation! This lovely ribbed long sleeved top is from Sammydress. Doesn’t its texture kind of remind you of a toned down Balmain?
Being open to spirituality is something to be celebrated. Believing in something is better than believing in nothing at all.
Yogis believe that there is a spirit realm, including a creator called Brahma. Similarly, Christians believe in spirits and a Creator as well. However, Christians also believe that the devil and his demons know that there is a God and a spirit realm as well and that any spirit other than an angel is a demon, because according to the Bible, humans go directly to either heaven or hell (Hebrews 9:27). Because of this, many Christians turn their backs on yoga and write everything off about it as demonic, because it is a spiritual practice but not Christian.
However, yogis seem to display “fruits” that are good, loving, kind, peaceful, and self controlled at all times, which is what the Bible teaches Christians to be like (Galatians 5:22). Many of them treat others more highly than or as highly as themselves, believe in non violence, non lying and non stealing, simplicity and generosity, avoidance of lust and displaying purity, and encouraging general positivity, according to yoga’s Eightfold Path. Yogis presence and practice do not display obvious outward signs of evil.
Though the Bible in 2 Corinth 11:14-15 warns Christians not to be deceived by demons, who in their power can pose as “angels of light” and “servants of righteousness,” we do not need to worship these spirits as traditional Hindi yogis worship their gods. We stay true to our own faith.
We must all recognize however our similarities but also understand our differences—which brings me to my next point.
Emphasizing loving others despite differences is a better example of your faith than condemnation
A very young child in my family passed by a church unlike her own and proclaimed disgust by saying something like “eew.” Members of her family were tickled by her reaction enough to share it with others including me. I was appalled but mostly by the adults’ response to this. How could we be teaching and encouraging our children to hate others? It is okay to express differences, but it is never okay to look down on others and their practices (which are often linked to their culture and upbringing), and never loving to show your superiority by mocking them. It is not on Christ’s mandate or any other spiritual leaders’ advice to mock others.
Not that you’re supposed to water down your own belief, hide it, or change it, but yoga has taught me to be kind to anyone, regardless of background. People of the same faith naturally tend to alienate others who are outside their circle, and this is just not what Christ or any other faith leader would do.
Yoga has given me an opportunity to converse with and learn from others, humbling myself to the realization that my own feelings might’ve been shaping details of my faith that are not of the spirit.
Encourage me to accept my own body and think beyond it, even as I use my body for exercise.
Through yoga, I’ve learned to accept my own body more rather than change it, and changing our bodies is what most exercises push us to do. However the great reward of this acceptance, this self love through yoga postures and movements, asanas and vinyasas, somehow results in the most amazing physique and sensation my body has ever had. It is truly ironic! It could only be mind over matter, and the power of the mind can change your physical limitations. Simply amazing. I’ve never felt and looked better in my entire life.
Treat my body more like a temple of the spirit
This “exercise,” this lifestyle is what I’ve come to embrace yoga as has made me more self controlled. It has made me more disciplined—needing less sleep and food with this new burst of energy, and needing less material possessions, and wanting no junk food or harsh chemicals to enter my body. The Christian church has taught none of this if barely.
How are Christians supposed to give themselves to the Lord if they are consuming addictive substances such as sugar and gluten on a daily basis? The body is literally a temple of the Holy Spirit according to 1 Corinth 6:19-20, which yoga constantly reminds us of. I do not mean to make anyone feel bad, but I wish to share how we’ve been poisoned by commerce to think that dessert and modern day wheat are okay. Bread during the ancient times was totally biochemically different, and we as children of progress have destroyed that. Perhaps the Christian church should change communion to have something other than today’s wheat.
Solidified my belief in the spirit world and its connection with the physical
Whether sadly or not, practicing yoga has made the spirit world come alive to me again. It’s easy to get stagnant and complacent with the Christian faith at times. We go to church every Sunday, go to at least one Bible study a week, give and receive the same popular scriptures out of context to make yourself or others feel good about themselves, listen to unpalatable CCM (Christian Contemporary Music), and get condemned if you do anything that gives the appearance of evil like read Harry Potter or wear a natural crystal around your neck, etc. Sure, it’s best not to partake in something that clearly looks bad, like having a teacher of the opposite gender hang out with a teenager after school hours.
Crystals were formed by God, came straight from the earth, and do geologically, like all things give off resonance and vibration like humans do. That’s not mumbo jumbo or witch craft. That’s a fact. Whether or not crystals heal or change moods is up to you—that’s partly having faith. The same thing goes for “grounding” or “earthing,” which some Christians have also condemned as a sort of new age practice. This earth was formed and belongs to God, thank you. I will be sitting on it, sleeping on it, and walking barefoot on it, as long as I live on this earth. The land beneath your feet (or hands or head if you’re doing inversions!) scientifically gives off electrons, so if the word “magic” scares you, you can just think of this as electrons. Our bodies need this charge naturally from the earth, that we get so little of now because of modern day living, because of rubber soled shoes for instance.
The connection I’ve drawn between the physical and spiritual from yoga has a lot to do with continually treating my body with care by food and the right kind of exercise our bodies can handle with little complication. Marathons and doing typical cardio exercises for an hour or so are not kind to the body, and a lot of professionals in the scientific field are starting to realize and warn us of that.
This proper maintenance of the body in turn strengthens the mind, upholds the spirit. Part of yoga’s goal is to be able to control the body through awareness in order for the body to be open spiritually. Most of Western yoga has diminished the second part of that equation, which for a Christian is probably the safest thing to do. However, I believe that in order to truly serve our God we must purify the body of its physical addictions from bad food and lifestyles, because these can control your minds and habits. If we are not willing to let go of our wheat based cupcakes at least for a day, then these have become your god. Same goes for the love of money and anything else that you cannot let go of (1 Timothy 6:10). Yoga seems to be of help in these areas through discipline.
There is no end to learning
Being immersed in yoga as both a student and a teacher in its Western derivation has made me want to learn more—not only about asanas but about my own body, how to treat others, the earth, and my awareness of the spirit realm. When I am grounding on the field upside down and with the sun on my face, I think “God, I feel your presence in me and on this earth. Thank you for your creation.”
Some of us don’t wait for Halloween to wear “costumes.” For us, wearing elaborate or theme-inspired clothing is a daily matter. You call it costumes, we call it a way of living! Last year, I wrote about escaping from “Sartorial Stereotypes” for Halloween with just a quick list of ideas. So, for most people who are just looking for cool and obscure references for their Halloween costumes, how about you take a hint from the lovely Lene Lovich?
Lene Lovich (born Lili-Marlene Premilovich) is an American singer-songwriter New Wave artist from the late 70s-early 80s (my favorite period!). Her most famous hit was “Lucky Number.” This lady, although born in Detroit came from an English mother and an Yugoslavian father. She also went back to her mother’s country for an extensive period to study art. In fact, her iconic hairstyle with scarves came from how she covered her hair to keep it away while sculpting!
Looking at her clothing and hair in plaits, you can’t help but think of traditional Yugoslavian attire, most likely influenced by her father’s side. Below are a couple of photos of the country’s costume for women: