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Big Scarves Are Like Warm Hugs & Sony’s The Interview

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Scarves to me are the ultimate accessory. You can wear them in so many different ways. They also protect you from the cold and harsh winds of winter. I remember a few years ago when my husband and I went around the streets of Chicago in early February, I was wearing this very scarf on my face, covering everything but my eyes! I don’t remember why we chose Chicago in the dead of winter. It might’ve been a tempting Groupon offer, but this scarf definitely was a lifesaver!

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How was your Christmas? Some of my cousins and their friends went to see The Interview with Rob and I on Christmas day. I really wish the funniest people in the world didn’t have to be so crass, because they would still be the funniest people in the world without being so. Truthfully, I couldn’t stop laughing throughout the movie. I loved it except for the long stripper scene and of course the overall crassness you’d expect from Rogen-Franco taken to the next level.

I don’t care what Greta Van Susteren or any of the real movie critics say about it. It’s not so much about your taste in movies or humor that’s in question, but more about supporting and positively reinforcing the freedom of speech aspect of it. You might not want to see it, because it’s definitely not a family-friendly movie! However, there is freedom in choosing. Once we allow someone else’s rights to be taken away, we are allowing ours to be taken away as well. Anyway, we are still alive and didn’t get blown up. In times like these when you’ve got a dictator like Kim in the world, it’s especially unnecessary and cowardly to be politically correct. Rob wrote about censorship and freedom of speech recently on Modern Life Survivalist.

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Despite the holiday cheer and merrymaking, many of us feel lonely at this time of year. It could be the lack of sunlight, imbalanced immune system, materialism, or the expectation of good feelings or of company. No matter how much we direct our focus for this season on the birth of Christ (even though many of you know December 25 isn’t actually when Christ was born), we are still sad. This feeling happens a lot on Valentine’s Day for obvious reasons, or on birthdays when barely anyone remembers it unless you’re on Facebook. What helps me to feel happy is to stop thinking about myself and give love and attention to someone else. Big scarves are like a warm embrace. Be that scarf that someone else needs on a cold night.

 

You Become What You Eat and Pursue: How Food and Opportunity Changed Me

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I was walking around a friend’s neighborhood in the suburbs of New York when these photos were taken. While I was walking around I thought about how old I was and how I should be ready to have a child by now. I’m twenty-six and working on my fifth year of marriage, yet my husband and I have been living like grown-up teenagers. I’ve just embarked on a new chapter in my life where I become a group fitness instructor in a matter of months. This weekend I passed my fitness audition with flying colors, yet I thought, “Should I be doing this much wear and tear to my body at this point in my life? Am I not planning to have a baby soon, but yet here I am with aspirations of teaching with my body, long term and rather frequently?”

Those worrisome thoughts flooded my head right after being on cloud nine when the news of my impending fitness career broke. I’ve never been this involved in athletics in my life, and it feels so strange but also invigorating. I dabbled in sports growing up but never excelled, so finding a new knack—nay, a talent—in teaching yoga and Pilates, just four years before I hit 30 is a huge transformation. This was never me.

A big part of this transformation I believe has a lot to do with the food I’ve chosen to eat in the past couple of years. After being sugar-free, gluten-free, organic, and low-toxin, my body has become incredibly agile and flexible as if I was a lot younger than when I was in high school. My body has started to look more womanly but at the same time athletic. That’s why eating the right food I truly believe is the best medicine for just about any anomaly of the body. If interested in learning about my diet, my husband and I are on a Bulletproof diet, and get our supplements on their website.

Another reason why the transformation came at this time is because I virtually had no freedom to do what I wanted before I got married. My past involved being around overly controlling people that held me back from pursuing anything, even friends. Married life has its own beautiful set of boundaries, but the restrictions are never as abnormal as the state I was in before.

Above all, every good thing comes from God. I may not deserve these changes in my life, but I am really happy and thankful for them. Remembering how I had barely any freedom to choose in the past reminds me of what wonderful opportunities I can take hold of now. That is a blessing.

Now that things have changed, I am now having to decide on things I never had the chance to decide on before, with the inclusion of family life as not just an option… but a goal.

ABOVE OUTFIT:

I have been looking for below-the-knee bodycon-type skirts for a good price and with good patterns for a while, and I stumbled upon this tribal skirt from a neat little corner on the web called Make Me Chic. The quality is amazing. It’s not cheap looking at all. The pattern has a dark hippie or bohemian feel to it. At the same time, it made me think of colorful stained glass.  I have another pencil skirt from Make Me Chic, which I can’t wait to show you in another “tennis” post around this same neighborhood!

Muscle Shirt Made Girly

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Heels: Nine West | Belt: Moschino | Sleeveless top: Blair | Bag: Vintage | Hat: Target | High Waist Skirt: eBay

I got this top in different colors from Blair, and their size small fits more like a very loose medium. So on me, this top looked like a muscle tee, with the arm holes a bit larger than what I’m used to! I kinda liked that it became looking masculine, though. That way the outfit doesn’t look over the top “girly.” To be honest, I don’t really wear stilettos much, but on rare occasions I will because they make me feel extra feminine. Do you like mixing feminine and masculine pieces together?

 

 

 

Cute vs Creepy Strangers: To Whom Do You Give Your Number?

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This right here is pretty much what I wear on a regular basis these days—capris, sneakers, t-shirt, and a vest. There’s really not much I personally do to accessorize when the heat is just that bad, because I don’t really wear much jewelry. A vest is a good layering piece to make an ordinary t-shirt look modest and not so boring.

These photos were taken with an iPhone last week in Norfolk while I was visiting family in Virginia Beach. I swear, sometimes my phone takes better photographs than my camera! It helps that I was surrounded by beautiful shrubbery right in front of a quaint green house.

While I was headed back home to Baltimore, Rob and I decided to stop a thrift store. He and I parted ways to scurry through treasures found in different parts of the store. I was later approached by a man maybe in his mid 40s while I was going through the female tops rack. The conversation went on a little something like this:

My Conversation with a Creepy Stranger

Man: Is this for women? *smiles, pointing to the clothes then pointing at me from top to bottom*
Me: Yes, these are for women. *goes back to what I was doing, sorting through the tops*
Man: These are nice. I’m buying for a friend.
Me: Oh, okay. You’ll find a lot of good things here. *smiles*
Man: So, what’s your name? *smiles*
Me: No, I’m not going to tell you my name. *I wouldn’t normally be this rude, but he was looking at me so intensely*
Man: Huh? What’s that?
Me: My name’s Rachel. *looks back at him*
Man: I’m ______. What do you do, for job?
Me: I have a store. *continues to sift through clothing as a hint to get lost but looking back at him when answering a question*
Man: Oh, so what do you sell? Art?
Me: Umm, a lot of things. Like, CDs.
Man: You’re very beautiful. What’s your background?
Me: Thanks. Hmm, how about you make a guess?
Man: You’re Filipina, no?
Me: Ha, you’re the first person in a long time to ever guess that right. Not even Filipinos think I’m Filipino.
Man:I know some Filipino! Magandang gabi. Kamusta. Uh, what else…
Me: It’s magandang hapon for the afternoon.
Man: Oh yeah yah, magandang hapon.*big smile* Where do you live?
Me: I’m not from around here.
Man: Oh, really? Me too. I’m from Washington.
Me: Oh, okay.
Man: Where are you from?
Me: Maryland.
Man: Oh, Maryland, huh? So what are you doing here?
Me:  I was visiting my parents.
Man: How long you staying?
Me: I’m leaving today. I’m going back home today. *that was really true*
Man: Aww. Can we exchange phone numbers?
Me: No, I’m married. *points to my ring finger*
Man: Oh okay. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. *smiling* *pause* You have kids?
Me: No. No kids.
Man: Ah, no kids. So are you visiting alone, or…?
Me: No, with my husband. He’s in this store somewhere right now.
Man: *looks around nervously* Ah, I see. Maybe if we exchange e-mail, it’s safe. Okay? Is that okay?
Me: No, I’m sorry.
Man: Okay, how about I give you my e-mail? You’ll have my e-mail.
Me: No… I’m sorry.

My Verdict

The man in this conversation wasn’t what I call harassing me. Maybe a bit persistent but not harassing. He was probably lonely and looking for some company, innocent or not. What I don’t like however is that he kept pushing me to exchange contact information after I said no and also tried to keep our communication “secret” from my husband by suggesting we do e-mail, because it’s “safe.” The nerve! A few people in the store saw the whole thing and a woman just shook her head and said “Oh gosh, some people!”

I’m not against guys walking up to girls and asking them for their numbers (or e-mail). I don’t think that’s creepy. Some girls, if they thought the stranger was cute would give him her number any day. To say someone is “creepy” just because you don’t like how he looks is two faced. The same idea goes for girls wearing revealing clothing to hopefully invite the cute guys and not the “creepy” guys who they just think is unattractive. That’s just mean and unfair to label someone a creep, when it’s biased and totally based on looks.

However, I do think someone is a creep for pursuing someone they know is married. That applies to women who know a man is married. Women can be creeps too (equal and opposite…genders). Men and women, look for the ring first before you start flirting with someone. If they hide their being married, that’s on them.

For your viewing pleasure and nostalgia, here’s TLC (hope you get the reference):

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