I immediately thought of a torero (bullfighter in Spanish) when I saw these photos. I had the perfect gold bolero to go with it too that I didn’t wear, which would’ve matched the gold color in the scarf. I have both the vintage blue velvet dress and the vintage gold bolero up on Etsy if you’re interested! A lot of my personal wardrobe is on sale, even if it’s not up on Etsy, so don’t be afraid to ask! There’s no reason to hold on to things I can’t wear a lot anymore. I find myself buying and wearing a lot of sport tops and leggings 90% of the time now ever since fitness instructing!
Speaking of toreros, their extravagant outfits are usually very bold and are meant to proclaim who is in charge in the arena with the bull! We see some “torerors” on a daily basis in the manner in which people call for attention.
Lately, I’ve been noticing more and more people announcing their good deeds in public, especially on social networks. Some may say that there is no good deed, because it is almost always accompanied by the pursuit of good feelings. That’s not always the case, because the effort, time, or resources spent on a good deed sometimes outweighs the elation of doing good, including making someone happy. Of course, that is based on perspective.
Setting that aside, let’s suppose that all good deeds inevitably go hand in hand with good feelings—the earthly reward from God for humanitarianism, regardless of religion. God cares for all people even if they don’t care back. So in this case, wanting more attention for the good deed you’ve done, even if it is in the church setting, seems to me a bit greedy and self righteous. Why want more good feelings when it has already come to you now, such as in the form of gratitude when you once performed the act, or later in Heaven from God?
Besides the proclamation of piety, there is also the chance to vent about someone else’s bad deed in public masked by a veil of holiness. This is nothing short of gossip. When someone does this, I often see support and praise for the gossiper—how patient and gracious they were in the presence of that other “mean” person. Again, fishing for compliments. Never “holy.”
I don’t really blame a lot of folks outside the church for doing this type of thing, but I believe the people within the church should know better. If it’s not accompanied by the urge to ask for more help in this area of service, then I don’t see why there is a point to announce what you’ve done good for others—especially on an empty platform full of people such as Facebook.
Here’s a passage from the Bible that specifically says not to announce your good deeds:
Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.
So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.
But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
- Matthew 6:1-4
Sadly, I personally feel I must announce my good works, because I get judged for doing “nothing.” Some others may feel the same. It is not always the case that someone is doing nothing good if they don’t talk about it. You can see it by the way they deal or talk with others on a regular basis, what they choose to wear or buy with their money (this might be hard to judge, because a lot of us may look wealthy but buy second hand), what they do in their free time, etc. These in the Christian community are called “fruits.” These fruits are the evidence of a person’s character. They don’t need to talk about their fruits, but they must simply act.
I guess in the presence of trusted friends and family, announcing your good deeds is okay. There’s nothing wrong with sharing everything with people you already share everything with and love. However when you seek for more attention outside this sphere, especially without humbly encouraging others to follow suit, then this essentially reverses the good deed you’ve done.
Do you sometimes feel tempted or pressured to announce your good deed to others?