Games People Play: The Smart Card

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The Beginning of Knowledge

1 The proverbs of Solomon, son of David, king of Israel:
2 To know wisdom and instruction,
    to understand words of insight,
3 to receive instruction in wise dealing,
    in righteousness, justice, and equity;
4 to give prudence to the simple,
    knowledge and discretion to the youth—
5 Let the wise hear and increase in learning,
    and the one who understands obtain guidance,
6 to understand a proverb and a saying,
    the words of the wise and their riddles.
7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge;
    fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Proverbs 1:1-33

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I’ve had enough of people qualifying their intelligence by literally saying how smart they are. Throwing hissy fits with a fist up proclaiming, “I’m smart! I’m smart!” doesn’t win any arguments. It seems to me that these people are trying to convince not others but themselves of this.

These are the same people who will not apologize for things they’ve clearly done wrong and realize it to be wrong themselves. They often make excuses, say why they did what they did, or point to something else as to the cause of their actions—as if they were nothing but a victim, prey to the circumstance that befell them. It is never their fault. It is always yours.

I’ve had enough of people who assume that the person they’re talking to doesn’t know the meaning of the word or idea by defining it for them before they even have a chance to ask or say that they are more than familiar with it. I don’t even do this to a five year old. I wait for them to ask me what something means. You must always assume the best of others.

These are the same people who hold their heads up high at all times while they walk on their tiptoes, ignoring all others beneath them. They neglect to see others who are much taller but are humbly slouching away to hide their true genius.

I’ve had enough of people who will make themselves (or their significant others) feel better or look good by putting others down with their words. It does nothing but cause strife between the people being compared. To say that they (or someone they know is the smartest person) by saying everyone else including the person they’re talking to pales in comparison only proves that they’re cocky and very much ignorant. It seems to be the sinister goal of this type of person to create an unstable environment for others for their own pleasure.

Without kindness, there is a lack in intelligence. Intelligence, as we’ve come to understand is not just being able to solve difficult math problems, memorize hundreds of names, finish a novel in less than a week, and so on. An integral part of intelligence is understanding how their own words and actions affect others and if their effect on others is ideal. Some people are too ready to just pulverize the person they’re arguing with by using ad hominem, thinking that they’ve won the argument by doing so. No sir, you have just lost with that kind of move.

Saying someone is ignorant at something is not bad as saying someone is an idiot, a dummy, or stupid. Being ignorant simply means factually uneducated in the area of interest. Calling someone the latter names means you have thereby determined their identity and their fate. For someone to claim that they know this about someone unquestionably assumes the role of God and is also therefore ignorant and very much cocky themselves.

This post is for the silent waters. I admire your intelligence and most of all your humility. You tower over all others who use their mouths before their brains, if at all present. Instead, you observe and speak up when needed. You do so to gently correct the mistaken and to bring truth and wisdom into a conversation riddled with hungry minds. You need not be qualified by anything outside of you. The words “I’m smart” resonate from you for all others to see without your having to say them.

For the people who’ve been told or felt that they were less than intelligent because of how others have treated you, you are capable of wonderful things. Don’t let others stop you from your explosive potential. Ben Carson’s story is an excellent example of a world renowned, brilliant neurosurgeon who in his childhood was called a dummy.

To those people who play the “smart card,” please do us all a favor and shut up.

“There are three kinds of intelligence: one kind understands things for itself, the other appreciates what others can understand, the third understands neither for itself nor through others. This first kind is excellent, the second good, and the third kind useless.”
– Niccolo Machiavelli

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Top: Vintage (Etsy) – Jeans: Angel Jeans – Necklace: Forever 21

I simply love this top, because it’s more Victorian than 80s. It’s puffy around the arms but tight around the wrists, buttons up high on the neck, buttons are like polished gems, and the fabric is like satin. I have it up on sale on Etsy, because I think I’m going to stay away from black tops for a while because I am keeping my hair color black longer than expected.

These jeans were sent to me by Angel Jeans, a very affordable but quality pair you can get from Amazon. It made sense to me to pair this Forever 21 necklace, because of the pretty embellishment on the jeans. They were a match made in heaven. The stones on the jeans are high quality as well. I’ve worn this pair a few times and have not lost one gem yet. My body type is mostly flattered by flare jeans, so this bootcut took a bit of getting used to. The acid wash did make my legs look more slender, so that is a plus.