Friendly Facade

This light blue kimono is just gorgeous! These pictures do not even do this dress justice. I wore this to the fashion event I was invited to speak at called Project Redesign. I took the opportunity to snap some pics outdoors around the campus of Mount de Sales because I can’t for the life of my camera take decent pictures indoors with low atmospheric lighting! If anyone is interested, I am selling this on eBay. Just like with all the other clothes I own: If I don’t sell them, I just happily wear them until they get sold. If a piece of clothing doesn’t get sold, then that piece and I were meant to be together. I may have to think of this as a spiritual connection…

I’ve been noticing that lately I can hardly put up with people who stay away from communication. It’s one thing to be extremely busy and to apologize for the lack of communication, and it’s another thing to be extremely busy and ignore someone’s invitation to communicate. So today I’m going to turn a rant into constructive criticism of the “friendly facade.” That title is actually from the song that my husband wrote in his old band The Turtle Neck Store. I really like it (of course), so I have embedded the mp3 below, if you’ll have a listen!

: The Turtle Neck Store – “Friendly Facade”

I am not going to use this blog to talk about specific people, and I advise you not to use your blogs or anything—or anyone for that matter—to address a problem you have with someone. Go talk to the person. This is an entry about communication, and that means you should try not to use other mediums to talk to the person indirectly about your problem. I realize that I may be ironically doing this very thing, but I have and am planning to speak with the people I have in mind. Ladies (and some gentlemen), gossiping may feel so good, but it never really solves anything—it will probably make your relationship with the person in question even worse.

I may not be the most accessible person to hang out with, but whenever I get an invitation to spend quality time with someone, I try my best to prioritize that relationship over tasks. I admit that I am not great at it; however, I advise you to try your best to respond to people when they address you directly (to be distinguished from e-mail forwards and other time wasters), whether it be through a phone call, a text, an e-mail—even through Facebook messages. Think about how you may hurt someone’s feelings by ignoring a “what’s up?” or a “happy birthday” text. I really would like to blame the Internet for distracting everyone from the real world by making interaction less personal through its proliferation of mass communication. It’s really not that hard to take a few minutes to respond back to people you personally know (even people you don’t really know but are sincerely addressing you).

It’s hard to reply to e-mails that are incredibly long, but if you kindly let the person know that you received their e-mail and that you will reply at a later time because you want to read their words thoroughly, it leaves both parties satisfied. In the blogosphere, it truly is hard to return every comment, especially if the comment looks generic. Bloggers, just do the best that you can whenever you can.

I should’ve been in a Japanese garden. I just didn’t feel like Photoshopping that in. It would’ve been the perfect setting to go along with these words of wisdom.

Below you’ll find a somewhat related video to this entry. It’s a video of my speech at Project Redesign. The audio is horrible and so was my delivery. That is the result of staying up too late working on midterms the night before. I also probably do poorly when I cannot see people’s faces (due to the bright spotlights in a dim room) when I talk to them. It was nice, though, that a few people from the audience approached me later to thank me for that speech. I’m glad some people still understood what this dear in the headlights was trying to say

Up next: Another giveaway on the next post. Think SWIM!