Christmas in a Garden & The Upsides of Dating As A Group

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The day after thanksgiving, Rob and I went to Longwood Gardens in PA with some friends. They had their Christmas theme up already, and we had a magical time filled with lights and poinsettias. If you’re thinking of going to Longwood Gardens, it’s best to come early and stay until night time, especially this Christmas season. There are tons of places to walk to and look at, activities to go to, and food to eat. You wouldn’t want to just pay for half the day. You will have to walk a lot outside, so wear comfortable shoes and cozy outerwear during the winter! I saw a lot of women wearing high heels with bare legs, and I’m not sure how they survived the hike and the cold. So, do prepare!

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What God has joined together, let not man separate – Mark 10:9

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Rob running in the background to do a photo bomb after he learned about what it was. The rest of the night, we all dared each other to do the deed at least once. I think I won the most successful photo bomb with two unsuspecting victims in one shot. ;-)

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This floor was made from green and red apples! Start bobbing!

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Don’t drink it!

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Love birds behind a bamboo cage

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This was our attempt to do a YMCA totem pole!

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Beautiful bloody trees

Currently listening to: Haim-The Wire

The  couple with us on our trip have been dating for about a year now, and together we’ve grown to be really good friends. Not only is it fun to go on double dates with another couple, but I believe it’s really important for couples, especially non-married ones to have a relationship with married peers (that would be Rob and I) as they date. And why? So we can scold them if we find them making out!

Upsides of dating as a group:

  • – If ever you don’t end up with the same person later, you will feel like you’ve gained friends and have not wasted your time
  • – You get to learn from others’ experiences
  • – You keep yourselves from being isolated and anti social
  • – You get to know your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s world. Their environment, family, and friends help you understand your mate better.
  • – The way your boyfriend or girlfriend acts in different situations and people determines how he or she will act towards you
  • – Keeps you from doing anything you will regret later

The dating couple only get to see each other once in a while, because the guy lives in another state—as did Rob when we were dating! We know exactly how hard it is to keep our hands off of each other during times we actually got to be physically there. It is our belief that saving some things for marriage makes married life a whole lot better! So, having friends to be able to hang out with when your boyfriend or girlfriend is around is very suitable for this kind of “accountability.” Thankfully, the couple believes in this too and welcomes our help and company. That kind of dedication is very rare these days! Rob and I surely had our struggles and mistakes in the past, but I am glad that we were able to save at least the most important thing for one another—our virginity.

Some people may see this sex-before-marriage practice as prudish and self righteous, but a lot of the people who do practice it know how much control sex has in their lives. It is not because they do not know or like sexuality, it is because they know and like it very well. Much like a person in an AA meeting knows alcohol, a person purposely abstaining from sex before marriage could mean they are breaking free from their addiction to sex. I recommend that you think about this before you judge anyone when they abstain from sex.

Do you like hanging out with other couples? Do you have any fun ideas to do with other couples?