Finding Your Constant During Seasonal Blues (SAD)

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Winter is a time when many of us are feeling sad and lonely, regardless of circumstance. I find myself feeling most vulnerable on winter nights—the combination of cold weather and early darkness just tears me down. I am mostly introverted, but when the sun goes down, I am often needing and wanting company. I have my husband, and he is delightful and so much fun, yet I still get the blues. Didn’t I say, no matter the circumstance? Listening to music helps somewhat, but the songs that find me end up complimenting my mood. I don’t know how long I’ve been like this. but it just further reminds me of the importance of getting sunshine!

When the sun is bright, I just feel like everything is or will be okay. The feeling I get when I’m basking in the sun is like the feeling of having someone’s arms wrapped around you, keeping you warm. In that moment, I feel loved. Secure. Protected. Special. Beautiful.

No matter what kind of woman you are, no matter your figure or profession, I think we can all agree that sometimes we feel like we’re not enough. It’s a joy to be a woman in many ways, but it also feels like a curse. In particular, our desire to be pursued and appreciated never ends. We are trapped in the illusion that our worth equates our beauty. Even after life settles down in a societal-familial sense, things never really settle down. Men on the other hand will always want to keep pursuing women, no matter what circumstance. It’s human nature—but not necessarily the good kind.

This is how I feel during the winter:

Note the underlying sadness.

When things change in your mood, your career, your happiness… find your constant and be grounded in it. What doesn’t shake, even amidst all things that do? Even when the sun goes away from our view, it is always there. It’s always working in the background even when you blame it for seasonal sadness. Dig even deeper, and you will find true joy at the source of it all, our Creator, lover of your soul and appreciator of your beauty.

Wearing: Vintage layering bib (fake collar) – Banana Republic 3/4 sleeves top – Ross high waist plaid skirt – Boohoo Chelsea boots – Burlington coat

Beautiful Nude Shoes

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HELP! I can’t stop staring at nudes! Nude shoes, that is. Okay, I just had to say it. I don’t really talk like a cheesy commercial with low-brow humor made to cater to 7-year-olds.

Nude shoes give the illusion of longer legs, but you have to realize that it does that only when you’re showing a significant amount of skin above your feet. If you wear cropped pants, nude shoes won’t help much with this illusion. In the winter time, I rarely wear nude shoes because I wear a lot of dark washed jeans and tights. It makes sense to pair your bottoms with similar shaded shoes (dark pants with black shoes) to give the look of continuity = longer legs.If you need extra help with the leg department, you could also wear high waisted anything.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t wear nude shoes in the winter at all. I do so when it’s warm enough not to wear socks. I like pairing my nudies with bare feet. I just do. Nude shoes make my feet feel delicate, especially paired with such a heavy bottom (badump!).

Here’s a photo of me from 2013 on a casual summer day wearing a muscle tee with nude/beige strappy heels and a dumb fedora hat you will never ever see me wear ever again. I don’t even know why I owned it. Other people look great with fedoras, but it doesn’t look right on me..

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Do you like nude shoes? How and when do you wear them?

The pretty collection of shoes from my collage is from Pink Basis.They have a huge selection of really affordable but quality clothing, shoes, and accessories.

The Many Sides’ Winter Look Book + GIVEAWAY! (CLOSED)

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The Many Sides is a shopping hub for indie, alternative, edgy, and creative fashion. You could almost think of it as an art gallery where you could purchase the pieces and wear them! I gathered my favorite winter clothes from their website to show you! It seems like I found a favorite designer as well—Alice’s Pig. They had me at tartan. Plus of course, the fur and the whole 90s school girl vibe. Sadly, my school’s uniform that I wore from first grade all the way to freshman year was not plaid. I’m making up for it now! Alice’s Pig is a reflection of my ideal wardrobe, at least as of lately. It’s grunge but preppy and rebellious but conservative. That about sums me up! Oh, and geometry?

The tooth necklace above is from the designer Bukkehave. If I was into shopping for jewelry much, I would want to have their collection. It’s ghastly, dark, and downright beautiful.

The coat below is cute (also from Alice’s Pig), but I really just put this photo up because I can’t believe how strikingly similar this model’s face looks like mine in some photos when I had solid black hair! blitzynavycoatalicespig

Had I been writing this back in 2010, I would’ve picked Yohan Kim from The Many Sides as my favorite designer, down to the choice of hair and makeup. Below is an example of his work. I still marvel at the designs!

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To give praise to the other awesome designers, I’ve included below Morphe to the left and Efi Dolcini to the right. themanysides2

So, on to the best part! The Many Sides is giving away two £50 vouchers to TWO winners! If you look at their website, you could surprisingly find many that are worth that much or less. My favorite top I featured above from Alice’s Pig for example is only £38.

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WINNERS: Congrats to Paola & Tea!

The Clash: Black, Brown, and Blue.

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When I wore this ensemble to one of our holiday parties, it was in the evening. The skirt looked more like a darker navy blue, and these photos made it seem much, much lighter! If you would like to see how dark this really is, take a look at my previous outfit. I couldn’t be more obvious with the clash in colors than wearing black with brown and blue!

I honestly don’t even really care about what colors don’t match together. I like to mix patterns as well but not as bravely or as often as others do. As long as I feel good in the outfit and carry it with confidence, others don’t seem to mind. I’ve seen others put together known no-nos with clothing, like jean on jeans or socks with heels and just rock the bejewels out of them.

It’s my hubby’s birthday this weekend, and I’ve been extra busy organizing his surprise party along with finishing up work. Shhh…I’ll get back to the swing of things next week and reply to messages I’ve put on hold! Speaking of, there will be surprises for YOU in the weeks to come as well! Think free + fashion.

I envy you all who have time to document your lives along with your message to send out to the world. I’m thankful that whatever little time I got to blog, there are a handful of you who keep up with my posts, however few and far between!

Wearing: Vintage style skirt w/ suspenders (Sammy Dress) – Chelsea chunky high heel boots (Boohoo) – Faux collar top – 3-in-1 ring (Bikini Luxe)

I leave you with… The Clash.